Dear ladies, please help me figure things out and see things in perspective. After leaving a very long term relationship (and having three children to the same man in said relationship, only having slept with this one man, my ex partner), I want to get out there, meet people and see where it goes. The problem is, I have an ugly vagina. I honestly feel that it is loose after having three kids and discoloured. I did the old hold a mirror down there trick and I'm sure the thing nearly broke. The most massive blow to my ego I've ever experienced, how the hell do I come to terms with that so I might be able to meet and start a relationship with someone new?
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Its a vagina. Even the name is ugly ? Have you ever seen a "pretty" vagina?
Its suppose to look the way it does. I have had work done to my vagina and still think its not attractive lol
They are all ugly! Mine has massive scars from a brutal episiotomy, and is discoloured and fat.
Its beyond me but I've never had a partner not love it. Seriously guys see something we don't !
All vaginas are ugly love...have you ever watched porn?
Men don't care. It's a vagina, that's all they care about.
You should watch the doco called the perfect vagina on YouTube, it is great! Really body positive and will make you feel better about yourself. Other than that maybe a labiaplasty will help you feel better?
To me all vag's are ugly! Unless you've got a blue waffle vagina men just love them all
I've had two children and separated a few months ago after being with my ex for 8 years, since I was 22. After stressing about the exact same things for a while I have recently had sex with a mate and asked him if it was weird at all and he assured me that, to him, it felt exactly the same as having sex with someone whose never had kids. It was actually really good and felt totally normal to me too. I'm sure once you take that plunge you'll feel a million times better about it all.
I've had two children and separated a few months ago after being with my ex for 8 years, since I was 22. After stressing about the exact same things for a while I have recently had sex with a mate and asked him if it was weird at all and he assured me that, to him, it felt exactly the same as having sex with someone whose never had kids. It was actually really good and felt totally normal to me too. I'm sure once you take that plunge you'll feel a million times better about it all.t
Hi Hun, I totally get where you're coming from. I left my husband after 14 years together a year ago and at the beginning I was dreading anyone else seeing my naked post baby body. Having said that, the last few months I have "gotten back out there" and honestly it hasn't been an issue - with any of them. I haven't had any complaints or comments about my stretch marks or anything about "downstairs". I truly believe that guys just don't look at that stuff - they're mostly just amazed that you're willing to sleep with them lol
Enjoy yourself, I hope you find love if that's what you're looking for - and I hope you have fun along the way with a few handsome gentlemen before you find it xxx ?
I once had my gyno tell me I had a nice looking vagina. I had always thought it was a train wreck lol I too have had three children and all three came out from there and left their mark as such lol,.. But there was my gyno telling me it looked great. Let me tell you, that was awkward. But it also gave perspective. Women always (well most) think we are less attractive and all flawed than what we really are. We are all gorgeous!!! Funky fanny's and all ??