Long story short.... I left my ex over a year ago due to violence and drug abuse. 3 months later I gave birth to our child and there is currently an IVO in place, he has no contact with myself or our daughter. He has children to an ex partner, but are biologically related to our daughter. I want to keep in touch with my daughter's brothers, but don't want any contact with my ex or his family in doing so. I will seek legal advice, just wanting to know if anyone has been in a similar situation.
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I didn't even attempt it.
It would mean co-ordinating with his other ex. In my case she was a toxic person (she was still hoping to reunite with our abuser) and I could see that it was going to create a lot of drama which wouldn't have been good for any of the kids involved.
Sometimes trying to form a relationship is not in our child's best interests.
The mother of his children isn't involved... he has them full time
Then definitely don't do it. It will put you and your child in uneccessary danger and would probably need to be in a supervised setting.
The cost to benefit ratio is tipped way too far in the way of 'cost' for everyone involved.
So they witness and live with his violence. Short answer no. It would mean contacting and keeping a direct link with him. If baby's just born you have at least ten years before you need to think about this. Before that its for you, not her. Get yourself healthy and independent first and then see if you still think it's worth it and if there's a practical way.
I replied on the Facebook post of this. I left DV (high level), have an IVO, my son currently has no contact with his father. It can be done. I do it. For the simple fact that my son has a right to know his family and his half sister has a right to know him. DHS - child protection will support this decision and assisted with us initially as we required. Feel free to send me a message about it all. I'm happy to talk to you about how we go about it all and the ramifications.
Hi Bethany, I will inbox you. Thank you ?
I'm not sure which profile is you lol there are a few Bethany Stanley.