Does any one feel like at times mental health teams, midwife, Drs etc pry in your life? I've recently moved and have linked up with mental health services midwife for my baby etc. Today they came to my house to see where I need help, they wanted to know my family tree and past life etc. I started to tell them, DV, depression the list goes on she kept digging deeper, soon it came to my past self harming history which I haven't done for a very long time. I asked her to find me people to help me with the DV that I have just recently left and am really struggling with and because of that I feel so low and have thoughts of harming it just come in to my mind out of habbit but never do or will do again because I'm a mum now. I guess it's like if your a smoker and you quit have a really shitty day you might just think God I really could go for a smoke. So she tells me I need help with the self harming thoughts not the DV. She rang me later today asking me if I had called the services she gave me for self harming. Why can't she get that I don't need help for that. I want help with me PTSD and the DV I suffered. I think this is more of a rant more than a question. When she left she asked to look in my room at my baby's sleeping situation and her bassinet etc. She nearly died of a heart attack when she saw clothes and hangers and boxes all over my floor because i just moved a few days ago. I fee like services like this are more of a pry than any help. Like I'm being judged on everything I sat.
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You sound anxious. Good on you for getting out of the DV situation first up. The hardest part is realising you are worthy of more and removing yourself and baby from a dangerous situation. You're very brave xx.
She may be concerned for your mental health while you are going through such a tough time, getting out of DV with a baby and everything. Please don't completely dismiss her, she may be trying to get to know your situation in order to help you better. it sounds like you are in a tough situation, and allowing her to see you vulnerable might be tough, but also could be useful as she knows how to access the kind of services you need.
Good luck mama, you got this
They did this to me too and you know what I nodded and smiled.
They almost died when they came into my immaculately tidy room and saw the frills of my bassinet and hanging toys for baby telling me it was totally unsafe. I mean wtf?????