Mumma seriously feeling guilt...
I'm a very lucky mum of a little boy who will be turning 2 in a months time. His father and I haven't been together since I fell pregnant. In the beginning when I first had my boy, his father didn't have much interest in him but over the last 6 months or so has been spending time with him. My son LOVES his dad. He is always asking for him and gets excited when he sees him.
Anyway, he has had a couple of nights where he has spent the night with his dad and he has been completely fine but he will only stay at his dad's if he gets picked up and I'm not there. Tonight he was going to stay at his dad's and I went over with him (his dad was cooking my fav seafood and invited me) when it was time to go my son didn't want to stay, he wanted to come with mummy. His father told him that i didnt want him anymore and i dont love him because i wanted to leave him there (I was so angry that he would make up something like that and then say it to my son!!!). I was horrified but my son wouldn't understand what was said and went off and played so I snuck out......
I feel like the worst mother in the world for leaving him but I really needed time on my own. I sat in the driveway feeling guilty so I called his father and I could hear my son on the other end and he sounded fine. So why do I feel so angry at myself for leaving? Why do I think I don't deserve to have a break? Every mother at some point needs time to themselves don't they?
What would you do?
How do I get over this guilt?
How do I get over this guilt?
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Parenthood Guilt
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I would have ripped dad a new one, picked up my child and walked out.
Yes you do need a break but what dad said was emotionally abusive and unforgivable!
I'd be having stern words and going through the mediation process. As he sounds like he needs to sit through the parenting information session where they talk about this kind of stuff.
100% this. I would have picked up my child and walked out (not judging, just what i would have done).
I would have told his father if he was ever stupid enough to say that again it'd be the last thing he ever said to him. Then picked up the lad and walked out. Needing a break is one thing, breaking your ex out of what is going to be a very fucking bad habit if he thinks he can get away with it is another thing altogether. How you acted isn't wrong so don't be guilty about it, just be aware that the shit he's talking isn't cool and only you can stand up to it.