Hi IM's.
I just recently found out that the father of my child, is in fact... gay. He's been in a relationship with this man for 2 years and I had NO IDEA.
I don't care that he is gay, I just don't know how to feel about this. I was with him for a few years before we had our son, whom is now 5.
I'm shocked and I feel terrible that I may not have been a good enough partner for him
2 Replies
I think it's great that you don't care he's gay. That says a lot about you!!
I'm assuming you have been seperated for quite awhile and he wasn't cheating on you with this 2 yr relationship.
I don't think you need to feel bad at all that you weren't a good enough partner for him.
He was born this way and nothing you said or did caused him to become gay.
I think it would be normal to feel hurt that perhaps he knew while you were together but nothing can change or take away the times you guys had together and the fact you have a son from this relationship, an awesome son who will need you both to show him that this isn't a big deal and dad has a male partner now and that's fine.
Him being gay has nothing to do with your last relationship and how good or bad you were. He is gay, and was having difficulty coming out and being honest with himself and his nearest and dearest. Says absolutely nothing about you and more about the fact in this day and age there is still a stigma in some circles around being gay.