Hi Mummy's im writing as im worried for my parents. Its a bit of a long story so bare with me. So I have 2 little brothers 1 14 year old and 1 is 20 years old who still lives at home.
His very abusive to my parents and its bad enough that they are scared of him. He doesnt pay board or for anything also if they ask if he can by a loaf of bread demands the money back, verbally abuses them especially my mother, gets up in their faces and throws tantrums where he takes offnin his car and worries them to death that his going to kill himself.
He also is very manipulative so he will be nice for a week or so then ask for money so to "keep the peace" my mum gives it to him, once that moneys up starts abusing her again. They've tried kicking him out but he doesnt leave, they try get board out of him and he abuses them.
Its gotten so bad my mother will be in the shower and if something upsets him he barges in there and starts abusing her while shes in the shower calling her a "mole, c#@$, s#@$" you name it.
My dad is what im assuming frightened of him because he just tells my mum to "let it go".
My 14 year old brother is obviously terrified of him and theres been times the 20 year old has gestired to "cutting his throat" if he dobs on the 20 year old. I've caught him out doing this and ive stood up for the 14 year old and his then abused me but I handle it a bit better then everyone else because I dont live with them. But its only a matter of time before he stands up to me. Im terrified that 1 day im going to get the call saying "his hit me" from 1 of my family members and itll more then likely be my mother or brother.
I know its abuse but how to I help my family? Who do I report him to?
Please help. I need to protect my family.
Worried my brother will hurt my parents.
Worried my brother will hurt my parents.
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Your parents are enabling him. Until they decide that they won't allow this behaviour in there home it will continue.
Your parents need psychological help themselves, to learn that they need to kick him out.
They also need to get legal advice and they need to call the cops if he won't leave. They are the ones that have to do this.
Personally I'd offer your youngest brother a home in the meantime. It might wake them up enough to start to make some changes.
This is domestic violence. If your parents want him gone, call the police and ask them to be there when you ask him to leave. If he gets aggressive or abusive they can file a dvo.
Ok... I have been in this position! I was your 14 year old brother... It is the worst feeling in the world having to walk on eggshells all the time, feeling like your parents care more about the abuser then you! Please if you can take him away from this hell... I don't really have one good memory from my time at home because it's always clouded of the bullshit I had to put up with! And I resent me parents... My older brother has never met my children, I have never met his wife or even know where he lives...until a few weeks ago when we learnt he is now in JAIL! For 9 months for a violet attack... If your parents aren't doing anything please just let your youngest brother know you care! He needs it more then anyone!