What do I do?
My son is 2 turning 3 has a great vocabulary with words and understanding,
Im looking to help him with his behavior we are seeing a child phycoligist witch is a lengthy process.
He is very vilonte toward his younger (age1) brother and other children also adult I let him know its not exceptable but also show love during this as his phycoligist has said to do.
Everything is no or a melt down i dont know where to go with it all anymore im trying my hardest to keep everything as structural as I can in regards to routine and predictability.
I guess im asking what other mums have found effective with helping there child know that this behavior is not exceptable?
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How long have you been seeing the psychologist for and how long since you left the DV situation?
Hang in there it takes time to turn things around. Keep following the psychologists advice for now. I know it's frustrating but changing the behaviour plan based on what others say (who've never met your child and have no clinical experience) will just confuse you, your son and make the psychologists job a hell of a lot harder.
Its been 2 years in November since leaving but 5 months since last contact
I agree to persevere and give it time. He needs time to undo what he 'knows' And learn that what you're doing with showing calm and kindness in high stress times isn't just passing, it is the norm. This takes time. And praise praise praise the good behaviours and tell him positive traits.
Is there a parenting course available where they watch you interacting. Sometimes its realy hard to see obectively when youre operating under stress, guilt, concern for our kids. Even have a friend observe and give honest, kind feedback relating to your objective - not their parenting ideals.
Yes have been told i can be stressed ect at times witch have been trying to improve
The best thing I did was take it slow my 12 mth old was so scared of everyone but her sister and I that I could not even take her into a restaurant without her losing it and crying hysterically out of fear from the noise and strange ppl. I took it very slow with her never forcing anything it's been a long 18mths but she is now doing amazing she still has episodes but they are much further apart! Slow and steady with love, structure and consistence you will help him through it xx