Im after some advice please. My son who is soon to be four years old is very aggressive. He hits and punches but never in front of me so i never see it. He will closed fist punch children and his day care workers. At times he can be extremely hyper and often i feel i can pick a bad day with him before its even started, just by his mannerisms. Sometimes he can go from being calm to being aggressive in a few seconds and often i cant even think of a reason. One example would be that once we were going to a friends house and my son told me he was going to punch him so we didnt end up going. If i am to be honest, i feel like he is two different people, i do feel like something might not be quite right. Would ideally like to hear that there are others just like us? And theyre perfectly fine?
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My advice, as one parent who felt like something wasn't quite right to another. Seek help from a peaditrician or a psychologist now. Early intervention makes a HUGE difference to outcomes. Not getting help just makes life a hell of a lot harder for your son and yourself.
Going to see a peadiatrician and psychologist won't harm your boy if nothing is up, but not going when when something is up can harm your son.
Seeking help before he starts school can make a massive, massive difference to his smoothly he settles in.
You need to ask yourself, what are you afraid of? I can't believe you didn't end up going to a friends house because your 4 year old son gave a threat!? Why are you pandering to your son's abuse and inappropriate behaviour??? He is 4. You should of told him that if he ever hits a child that there will be big consequences, and that you are going to the friends house. By not going, you're giving him full control. You are the parent, start disciplining him, be firm and clear that this sort of thing will not be tolerated. Take things away, Don't give in. Unfortunately, if you don't start now...he will become more difficult as time goes on...this is your responsibility.
My son becomes quite aggressive after consuming to many foods with the natural chemical called 'amine' (can be found in chocolate, cheese, coconut, aged meats - including slow cooked and many others) as well as swimming in highly chlorinated pools. He is normally a lovely sweet 5 year old boy without amines and chlorine but add them to the mix and whoa angry boy!