Hello mummas and dad's! I know this has been asking a billion times, but... I'm really struggling with my feelings of adding a 3 child to our family!
I have two beautiful boys and all of a sudden I'm longing for a little girl! Yes i understand that i may not get a girl, but i have this urge to try! Now...my boys, although healthy now, were very sick babies, both prem, both in nicu and special care! I'm scared that could happen to the next baby! The drs can't figure out why the boys came early, there was nothing 'medically' wrong! How can make this decision? I really have no idea! Tia!
Torn!
Torn!
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I think these decisions we have to be a little practical about it.
Write a list, what are your support systems like? Can your partner manage the boys alone, keep his job, and hold it together enotionally etc if the same thing happens. What do doctors think? Do they think it's likely to happen again.
Go through the practicalities. Financial, outside supports etc. will your boys cope etc. If all of those things can be managed and you want another child then go for it.
In my case (I carry dodgy genes) I opted not to try again because In my circumstances I didn't think all those things could be managed. Only you and your family can decide for you.
Why don't you foster a girl? That way you also don't have to go through pregnancy and have another possibly sick and premmie child.