So I think my ex husband split from his girlfriend of 3yrs (with her 2 kids). Not sure when but these past few fortnights my son 7 has been coming home saying that he has been staying with dad at his dad's friends places. Doesn't shower the whole time he is there, doesn't brush his teeth or change his clothes, sleeps on the couch, eating junk food and doesn't have his toys etc. (2 nights a fortnight usual). This past weekend my son tells me that dad and GF don't live together any more, he lives with a male friend now and he and dad share a bed and he doesn't sleep because of dads snoring.
My son suffers from anxiety and has seen a psychologist to help him stop being so stressed about going to dads in the past. Obviously this situation can't be helping.
Now the ex chooses to not communicate with me at all... Hasn't for the past 3 years..he has not said a word about what is going on or about his living arrangements. Nor has he given me an update on his address details. (We have no court orders and tried mediation with no good outcome).
My son seems to be ok physically but I worry about what this could emotionally do in the long term. I'm starting to get concerned and not sure what I should do.. If anything.
Do I just sit back and just let him be with his dad?
See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil??
See no evil, hear no evil, speak no evil??
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I wouldn't stop the visits but I would consider initiating mediation. I would also ask for address via text so you have proof. It's totally reasonable to know the address where your son is staying.
I would. I wish my kids dad made an effort to see his kids. It'd be easier to not bother but he is. He obviously loves his son.
You said you're not concerned about him physically. I can see you'd be concerned for him emotionally.
Can you talk to him to prepare him? Explain how he would be making his dad happy by being around him.
Maybe you could pack some healthy snacks?