Would you be upset if your future mother in law wasn't going to your hens?
My mother in law has received an invitation from my sister to my hens night, my mil decided to contact me saying she won't be coming as its not her place nor is it her scene. (Quiet night away with friends and family)
I'm really hurt and now quiet mad, do I have the right to be upset/mad and if so should I say something.
I always go above and beyond for my partners family and now feel really unimportant.
Maybe I'm being silly, I don't know?
7 Replies
I'd be relieved!!!
It's a hens do, not usually the place for mother in laws. It's not because she isn't prioritising you, it's because she sees a hens do as for friends, discussing sex, drinks, crude jokes etc.
I'd stop putting so much pressure on the relationship. Relax, it isn't an insult. It's just she has a different idea about what a hens do is and doesn't want to intrude, be out of place.
She actually sounds lovely!
No don't say anything and no I would not be mad.
I think Your MIL-to-be sounds quite sensitive - she made the effort to talk to you personally about not wanting to attend your hen's night, she's explained it's not appropriate for her to attend (she's your mum-in-law, not a friend and she doesn't want to put a dampener on the young women's party). Thank her for her consideration and maybe invite her to a one on one coffee if you'd like to spend a bit of time with her talking about your plans and her son (you both share your love for him). Chillax ;)
Relieved! Act regtrtful but understanding, say you missed her it's win win.
I wouldn't read too much into it, maybe she is a bit conservative and shy?
I'd be relieved, I wouldn't want my MIL at my hens night when I have it. I plan on having a morning tea or afternoon tea with people I don't want me seeing me in the condition I'll probably be in :P I don't even want my mum at my hens night. She's embarrassing and I feel she's going to make it all about her, when it's supposed to be all about me. If someone doesn't want to attend it should be their choice. You should just accept it and move on, you'll have a better night without her.
If people dont want to come, dont stress, enjoy the night with the people who do want to celebrate with you!!
I think a hens night is for the young...leave the oldies behind :)