Does anyone ever feel like they are never "celebrated"? It sounds petty and silly I know but its really begining to get me down. Just once I wish someone would be excited for me. Fully excited and happy. Ive lost a lot of weight, gained entry to university, left uni then come back into a new degree, gotten high distinctions and other academic praise, recently ive landed a job I desperately wanted (also my first job since adolescence) and not once has anyone been overly happy for me. All around me I see people posting weekly recaps on the weight theyve lost each week and everyone is so excited and motivational, whether ita only 1kg or 10kgs. I lost 36kg and nothing. My husband gets a job and we celebrate with dinner and drinks and hes practically king! Me I get a oh thats good whats for dinner or from my mother "how are you going to do that with uni and a child as well?". Thats it. No ones ever celebrated a single one of my university accomplishments. I know I shouldnt need external praise and I dont, I still lost the weight, I still strive for great marks, im stillbsuper proud of myself. But its getting lonely. And im feeling resentful. I mean, why should I care about your accomplishment when mine means jack shit to anyone?
Is anyone else in this boat? Is it me? Am I just not worthy enough? Maybe my accomplishments just arent all that great after all?
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Time to chuck a tantrum to your mum and your hubby!!! They sound like they need to be pulled up on it.
For what it is worth from a stranger, well done, you have done an awesome job! Sounds like you have had some major achievements - that is fantastic xx
Im in the same boat. Was accepted into do a diploma of nursing. Nothing. No congrats.
He gets a "probational period" type promotion (12 weeks and see how it gors type deal) and everyone high fives and shakes his hand and congratulates him.
Im studying full time and raising 3 kids (one of which is a newborn). I feel like i should be getting a high five for doing dishes! I barely have time to eat brekky let alone clean up after everyone.
I dont want to conplain about it because then you're a whiner right? So how do we get any appreciation when we cant ask for it nor can we stop what we're doing (oh they'll notice then wouldn't they??)