Single parents and Mother's Day.
So I have a 5 year old in prep and he has the opportunity to buy something for Mother's Day from the stall at school. Now I want an opinion. Who gives them the money?
Do I have to buy my own present or should his father give him some money?
I do pretty much all the the parenting. He goes every second weekend to his dad's and he pays child support. But will only do the bare minimum. When we where together he never made an effort or any special occasions so I guess I shouldn't expect much. But still. I'd give my son money to get something for him for Father's Day.
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My oldest's dad and I have split and I've always been the one who gives her money to buy Mother's Day gifts.
I give my children money to buy me something from the stall at school. It's something they love to do and they pick without me knowing. My ex doesn't do anything like that. I don't buy him Father's Day gifts either.
I always give the money
You're split you can't expect anything. My ex would if he's around but if not no and I'd give money myself because I want my kid to buy me something and give it, the money doesn't matter and its just as special without a partner involved at all.
It's more special! It's a genuine act of appreciation from your kid! They're probably more excited than you about what they've got or made for you! Hope you have the happiest of Mothers Day's ? You're especially amazing when you can do it on your own!
I dont intend to sound rude, but if you expect the father (who you're not with) to give your child the money to buy your mothers day gift, that just sounds petty to me. With that thought, would you then expect it every year? till your son/ daughter earns his own money! Give them 5 bux.. nothing at the school stall is usually over 10 anyway. I give my girls $5 to buy me a gift, Im not with their Dad, I wouldnt expect their Dad to do it/ pay.
When I was a single mum, I always gave my son money for the Mother's Day stall. It's about your child being able to give you something. I've always felt that Mother's Day is about your kids when they're little. Do a good job now and I'm sure you'll be rewarded when he's old enough to buy his own gifts for you. Sometimes the other parent is shit. That's our bad judgement. Our kids don't need to be constantly reminded. Be the bigger person and do it for your son. Kids aren't stupid, if you give him money for the Mother's Day stall and the Father's Day stall, he'll put 2 and 2 together. It's a case of the grass is greener though. Despite the Prouds ad showing diamond rings for Mother's Day, many married women will get nothing more than breakfast in bed and something they made at school or a pair of slippers. That's okay but because it's Mother's Day. It's a gift from your child/children to express appreciation for asking care of them. Guys can be crap at remembering these sorts of things too... He may not even mean it, has your son asked him for money? If he only sees him every second weekend, he's probably not even aware of it. My stepsons mother texted asking to have her boys today for Mother's Day, it's not until next week, there's mums who don't even register! Don't put too much thought into it, just try to look at it through your sons eyes.