So my girlfriends and I were discussing a recent marriage breakdown, with the common statement people were saying was "I never pictured him to be a cheater". So this got me thinking, what does a cheater look like? It isn't as though they have it stamped on their head.
My girlfriends started explaining they are sleezes and womanisers etc but if this is the case, how do these affairs go on for so long (in this case almost 7yrs) without someone pointing it out?
What makes a cheater?
What makes a cheater?
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Wow! 7 years. That's frikkin insane.
I don't think you can actually answer this question. I mean they can look like any man or woman. Is it important?
What makes them cheat?
Why not just leave?
How can they lie to their significant others about it?
That's what I'd like to know.
Cheaters are very good at hiding there cheating. Nobody looks like a cheater.
One of my least attractive but conservative acquaintances is a serial cheater. Comes across as the ideal family man who helps around the house, picks and drops the kids at school, takes them to sport etc.. Well respected job.
His wife knows
Theres all sorts, unhappy in the relationship, tempted at the right time, some are genuinely moving on just too gutless to do it, some honestly think its nornal what she doesnt know doesnt hurt they just dont tell her thats the deal, ( theyre the decent seeming ones) theres weak immature people who dig a whole and shoulnt be in a relationship let alone two, theres narcissists ( seven years sounds like this) who believe they deserve what they want and dont have empathy for the people they say they love and marry and create kids with.
Sometimes, more often than not, theres clues in the relationship, and clues about his cheating, but we trust anyway.
I guess its the feeling you get when u meet them. Sleazy, untrustworthy, a man who is always trying to flirt. Or has limited time for his family or puts himself first more often than not
Or seeing them behaive inappropriate when their wives arent looking.
But you are right-there is no defining quality.
I guess your friend meant that from the outside he seemed like a great husband and father
A cheater can be anyone! Most of the cheaters I have ever known are usually the ones "you would never expect". The devoted family men. And usually the wives are very devoted to them as well.