Does a one else regret having kids? I find it hard and thankless. I have two boys almost 4 and 5. They are non stop fighting, squabbling, whinging whining. And even when they are happy and playing nicely I can't stop resenting them for whatever shot fight that would have just finished, or which one they will no doubt start soon enough. They want for nothing ( they don't have everything they want, but everything they need) yet appreciate nothing. They aren't spoilt, yet act it. Can't take no. Hate me cos I'm the bitch who does all the shit stuff like nit combing, making them eat vegges, tidy up blah blah blah. Trash my house, clean it, they trash it again ..... Ffs. Of course I love them, but if I had my time again, I'm not sure I would do it. And I have a nice home and happy marriage. I can imagine it is so much harder for others.
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That stage does pass. I call them childerbeasts. The Magic 1-2-3 videos are well worth getting hold of.
People make the mistake of thinking children are little people....they arent. They are wild beasts and we are beast tamers.
I think that's a normal feeling from time to time. I'm an extremely dedicated mother there have been times where I've just wanted to run away, or dreamt of another life without the child.
Of course I'd miss him terribly if he wasn't here :)
You are not alone, it's a hard friggen job this mother shit! Who ever said being a mum is the best job in the world is a liar! It is so draining, how can something so little and cute cause so much frustration yet so much love yet so much anger lol, hang in there sister we are all on the same ride some people are better at hiding it or they have nannies ;-)
No answers but I'm going through the same right now. My oldest is 9 and disabled I love him to bits and would never harm him (we have come close to losing him at one stage) but sometimes it's such hard work I wonder what it would be like if I didn't have him.
My middle two are always fighting and my 2.5 yo surprise baby is a complete handful.
I sit and cry sometimes from being over whelmed it doesn't help when the grand parents who looks after 1 or 2 of them occasionally tell me how easy they are.
I feel like a failure:-(
Yep!! Damn straight!! My 3 kids don't bring me much joy, it's just a lot of work & reminders & overseeing what they are told to do - and my youngest is almost 10! My 2 girls (10 & 12)are constantly bickering with each other & whingring at or about each other, & my 16yo son is a negative & non-communicative & on-screens-all-the-time, inactive & unsocial boy who brings me to tears over how he's turned out & what a parenting failure I am! I usually hate parenting & don't have the energy or motivation for it, I would definitely not have kids if of had a crystal ball, but I would also definitely not have married my husband 23yrs ago if I knew what misery & disconnection he'd bring to my life & our kids lives & being the irresponsible father that wouldn't do parenting things or 'fatherly advice/ instruction/hygiene /sex-education' etc things but made me live like a single mum, & who put us thru all the crap & separation & etc that we've endured.
:( I have no answers I am sorry. Do you have your own time every now and then? I have two boys too but I have never regretted them. I can't imagine not having my kids ( and before anyone judges I have a degree and other interests besides my children)
Have you been feeling this way for long? And do you think how you feels is affecting them?
Its bloody hard work! Thank god it does get easier when they get older and more independent, thank god!
I had one and no way i would go back for seconds!
She is nearly 13 now, so i finally got to the really nice stage and now im entering into the teenage zone.... argghhhhh!!!!