Am I done?

Anon Imperfect Mum

Am I done?

Hi Mums, just wondering how or if you knew you were done having kids?! What made you decide to stop? Thanks <3

Posted in:  Pregnancy, Baby & Toddler, Kids

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Rachel Sander

I see babies and feel nothing. Love giving them a cuddle then giving them right back and enjoying a full nights sleep. Mine are 4 & 5. Newborns make me anxious. LOL.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

M6 husband said no more, other wise i would have a whole lot more than the 3 i have already

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I honestly thought I was done after number two ( even though so many people asked me when I was going to try for a boy as I had two girls) then I went through such a clucky few months I felt my body betraying my logic and my womb wanted another chance to hold life but it wasn't until I really thought about it, I mean really really thought about it that I realised it was the grieving process, I wanted another baby but not another child ( if that makes sense) that's when I knew I was done

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I've had my tubes tied for almost 3 years now, I'll be trying IVF next year to get my 4th and probably 2nd last baby. I tied my tubes because my ex (partner at time) refused point blank to get a vasectomy and that was the original deal. He told me to get my tubes tied instead. I did I probably shouldn't have but if I had fallen pregnant to him again there would probably have been 4 kids without a mother. Having my tubes tied made me strong enough to leave that relationship in the end there was nothing in me to tie me to him. Or bring emotion in to our split. Make sure you're really ready before you do it. Good Luck!!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

Im happy. Im content. Im not considering anymore in my heart, and logically, financially, all round im happy the way we are. Im still open to the future i have a few years to go where things may change but at this point i doubt it.

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Anon Imperfect Mum

My body was done, i felt id done enough to it.
I didnt want to go through labour again
Financially it didnt make sense as we would have needed a bigger house and car
I felt 3 kids was more than enough to handle for the rest of my life
And same as above..babies are cute but i do not get clucky over them

I made the decision 10 yrs ago to stop and i definately dont regret it! I would be devastated if i fell pregnant now. There is life beyong babies and nappies and sleepless nights!

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Anon Imperfect Mum

I still get clucky when I see a baby, but I don't want one of my own.
Initially I made the decision because my genetics are totally crap! But over time I really didn't want more. I really don't want another little human dependent on me, I really don't want sleepless nights, breastfeeding etc.
occasionally my hormones kick in around ovulation but that's my hormones not my brain!

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