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Hi ladies, I am desperately seeking advice on how to make my partner feel loved again. Sorry it's such a novel!
Lately I have been extremely moody and tired, I have an extreme iron deficiency and am anemic. I have been snapping at him constantly and all he does is show me love and affection and do everything for me when he isn't working.
I'm constantly bleeding so we don't get to have sex much and he's really supportive of me just trying to get my health back. It all started when I went on the pill.
I know me snapping at him is wrong, there are no excuses for that, he does so much for and with our son because some days I'm just too tired to even get out of bed.
I want to do something for him... Just him. Possibly get a sitter over night and show him how much he means to me.. I just don't know where to start.
He doesn't go out much, he would much rather stay at home with us and be a family man, watch movies if our son is asleep and just cuddle. But I really want to do something/anything to show him how much he means to me.
Any advice would be great. I just want to show him how much I appreciate him, and not just this once, but continue to do so as he shows me each and every day how much he loves me. I would like to do the same in return so we can have a well balanced, healthy, happy relationship.
Thank you xx
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Send your son to nanas for the night, cook him a special meal, let him choose something nice to watch on TV and snuggle. Keep it simple
High five to you for wanting to make an effort with everything you are going through. How about a nice picnic somewhere, a night in a nice hotel, a voucher for something such as a fishing charter, or to see his favourite football team play. Or you could even just organise a sitter outside the home (if you can) and cook a romantic dinner for two and have a picnic on the loungeroom floor watching movies.
Thank you ladies, both of you.
Something simple would be great as we're saving for a family holiday, but simple just makes me feel like I am not doing enough or like he won't feel the love, more than likely he would appreciate it more than anything, but I just feel like there's nothing in this world that can show him how much I love him or appreciate him. But I think a romantic dinner at home would be the way to go as he loves being at home and relaxing.
Thanks again! Xx
He sounds like a wonderful man and good on you for wanting to show how much you love and appreciate him.
For something different my husband and I play board games together (child's not old enough yet). Its fun, we talk and laugh together and it's different to our normal routine x
Do a cute ott pampering. When he comes home pull him into the chair and take off his boots, give him a beer and give him a foot spa. Put the footy on. Cook dinner. Put him in teh shower, while hes in there light soem candles, some flowers, get a massage bed ready, lie him down and give him a nice oil massage. Little things dont have to cost money just treat him like a king. Make sure you slip in there that you know the way you snap is uncalled for and he doesnt deserve it. Try to continue it as well, attend to his little needs through the day.
I saw a wonderful post on here recently about a woman making this same realisation. Lay out his clothes, make his lunch sometimes and sneak in a note, make his favourite dinner. Just things that are for him.
My hubby is similar and I know how much he loves me but I know I take him for granted at times which I don't mean to.
Some of our best nights have been when kids crash early or send them to fam for night, we have a few drinks at home and play games like Wii sports were we compete and loser of each game strips a piece of clothing or other games we can play like twister or trouble ( first one home gets there choice of pleasure )
It's about finding the simple things that you can turn into a good time.
My hubby loves random msgs saying I love you, or dirty thoughts etc which I send every few mths.
He understands and appreciates the difficulties with kids and it makes them appreciate it all so much more, even just a back scratch as your laying in bed going to sleep can show that you still care and want to touch him and make him happy
I understand the bleeding as I've been battling it since our 2nd born 2 yrs ago. First yr I just steered clear and forgot that I could still give him pleasure and that caused problems cause he didn't understand why I didn't want to even kiss ( I thought he'd want sex anytime we made out and whilst he knew I couldnt, I still backed away ) but guys do like just kissing for the sake of it, it shows you still love him. And when you are in the mood you can do things for him that show you still want him
Thank you everyone!! There are some really great ideas and I'll definitely be trying all of them over time.
I am a very lucky lady to have him and I am extremely greatful for all of the advice you ladies have given me. Thank you all so much! X