I started listening again....

A while ago, after a particularly nasty fight and not talking for two days my husband said something to me that really got me thinking... "When was the last time you really did something for me just because?" I pondered on this for a week. My husband and I have been together since I was 17. 20 years now. I bitch and I moan, he doesn't help me with the housework, he doesn't run around after the kids with sport... why do I have to do everything all he ever wants is sex.... and the dreaded question...Am I still in love with him? Do I love him? Or is it just comfortable?
I pulled up short and I really looked at myself and our relationship. When was the last time I showed him I loved him?
I am NEVER in any doubt about how he feels about me. He tells me constantly that he loves me. I don't nearly as often. He shows me EVERY day that he loves me. I'd just stopped looking. I started to take everything for granted. he works hard, all he wants is for me to be happy and he will go out of his way to make sure I am, he gives me everything I want and more... I stopped seeing that.
For him, sex isn't just sex, it's his way of being connected with me. And honestly, sex is good, sex feels great.. why should I hold that back from him and see it as a chore. Because it's not. It's always been an act of love for him.
So I started doing the little things. I started laying out his clothes for him again. I started sending him little text messages just because. I started going to bed the same time as him instead of staying up. I started snuggling into that special crook in his shoulder that I'd left alone for months. I started listening again, i started looking again. Most importantly I told him I loved him, every morning and every night.
I am falling in love with my husband all over again and it's wonderful!
This morning as he held me and we giggled together (something that's not happened in longer then I care to admit) he told me, "I love having you back"..... it brought me to tears. All he wanted was me to love him. That's not so hard to do.
I'm so glad I opened my eyes and listened to my heart. I've never felt more content and happy in our relationship then I do now. Love needs to be fed, and it will grow and grow and grow. he never changed, he never faltered. I did. But now... now I can see clearly. Now I'm back on the right path and I hope I never lose my way again. But if i do... you know what I've learned.. I'll have one very stubborn, loving man pulling me back and grounding me.