Hi mums, I am struggling big time with miss 13 and miss 9 and I'm hoping someone has experienced something similar?
They are both driving me to the brink the last few months and I honestly don't know how much more I can handle, and yes I know that sounds awful and I feel guilty, but I can't help it.
Miss 13 has a horrendous attitude to the point where I can barely speak to her lately, she is so angry about everything!!! If I ask her to do something simple like get the towels off the line, she turns it into an attack on her and a screaming match!!
Miss 9 is just very stubborn and if things aren't what she wants, it's full meltdown mode.
And let's not get started on them getting along with each other cuz that just doesn't happen lately!!
Now the thing is, they have always been pretty good kids growing up, certainly no behaviour like this! So how the hell have I ended up with 2 rude, disrespectful, disobedient little horrors??
Has anyone experienced this at these ages? Is it just a phase I have to ride out?
I do have them booked to see child psychs but haven't had the first appointment yet (that's next week) but I fear I may not last that long! I feel like such a failure as a parent, neither of their fathers are much help with them, so it's all up to me to manage.
Please don't think I'm an awful mum for feeling like this, I do love them and would go all mumma bear on anyone that hurts them, but lately Im just struggling to keep going! ☹️
Where did I go wrong?
Where did I go wrong?
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I was awful around that age! People talk about toddlers but totally forget PUBERTY :)
Plus depression and anxiety is so underdiagnosed in the teenager age. I was so bloody angry, confused, in turmoil constantly. I tried to suck it up at school and then would explode at home.
I think a child psych is a great idea for both girls. In the mean time, and I'm normally all for kids doing there chores etc but until the appointment id relax expectations regarding chores. Just get you and your girls to that appointment alive!
You haven't failed. Hormones, peer pressure, pushing boundaries, all normal and yes they can be downright shits but I'm told it passes. Dear son is 18 now and I'm starting to see the faintest hints of hope.
Have you tried putting them in a sport that is disciplined, such as karate?
While I only have 1 (and she's 10 and already doing my head in), as one of 3 girls I can assure you that it is nothing you have done! I think back to what my sisters and I were like (especially the one closest to me in age) and I don't know how mum and dad didn't just pack their bags and leave us to it! We were violent, vicious, depressed and anxious. A glimmer of hope for you - my sisters are my best friends now. And no matter what I said about them or did to them, woe betide anyone else who tried anything!