Having some child support issues CSA have contacted me to state the new cs amount. I have a private agreement based on what they calculated for the past 5 or so years. I was previously working part time and last year I stopped and started studying nursing and recieving a carers payment for my youngest son who has a neurological disorder. The cs rate was 52 a week last time I recieved a letter from them but unknown to me they recalculated the amount in March 2015 to 74 a week and from August 2015 to 75 a week. I only just recieved the notification and this means my ex has not been paying the correct amount since March last year. I usually get along well with my ex but now he is refusing to pay back the amount owed and he cannot see it would really help our son recieve the speech therapy and occupational therapy he needs. Should I let him off paying it back or should I persist? I also have a 14 year old who I have never recieved a smidgen of anything off his father, so please don't tell me I'm lucky to get anything because I have been through that and I really don't need any negativity atm thanks.
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I guess it depends on his financial situation, of course he will find it but is he in a share house driving an older model car, living week to week, etc.
And also, how much do you value your relationship with him. Weigh it up and do what you feel is right
I'd tell him you'll be no longer doing a private agreement and that you will now be getting CSA to collect the money.
If he isn't going to be fair and work with you then see how nice CSA will be.
You probably still won't get the back pay on that amount but it means it won't happen again in the future.
He lives at his mothers house rent free always has, doesn't own a car either and works in a supervisor role full time, so he is better off then myself. Csa have said if I opt for them to take the money out I will not get paid weekly anymore and they will make him pay back the amount owed. I still don't know if I can cope financially only receiving cs every 4-6 weeks csa said it makes things more complicated for me but I don't want to be yelled at anymore when I only told him that he wasn't paying the correct amount since March last year. It's around 560 he owes his son but I shouldn't expect much as he hasn't even brought him a birthday present for today. Kinda damned if I do damned if I don't.
I'd get the agency to deal with it and avoid all the drama. It will a bit more difficult being monthly you will just need to be a bit stricter budget wise.
Change the private agreement to $75 from now. You rely on the money weekly so let it go and just make it right from now, in future watch your mail so you don't miss an increase again.
If you want to keep getting it weekly, this is what to do
My opinion is let it go. He obviously didnt know he was suppose to be paying more, and you have a private agreement with him anyway. He is paying you every week and thought he was doing the right thing. Do what you want to do, but if it was me I would personally let it go and make sure he starts paying the correct amount from now on.