How do blended family see their kids. We have my partners kids every school holidays plus weekends live 4 hours away do the driving to get them and the drop offs..just starting to feel every holidays is the same kids are spoilt and feel like the 10days we have them is draining..we split the time off we each others work and cant go anywhere as 1 parent is at work. Do day trips with them but thats ends bad..
what do others do to see their kids how does your plan work?
if your partner wants to have his kids does he have time off the whole time? My holidays are always spent sitting at home with stepkids..
I do love them but am over the holidays already...
helpful advice please...
Stepkids and holidays
Stepkids and holidays
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I'm going to be honest. It's bloody difficult when living that far away. 4hrs away is less than ideal.
But I also think that step kids don't travel to spend a week at home with step mum either especially if there are no siblings/half siblings. If dad was single would he be able to have the kids for the entire school holidays, probably not and they would be at his house one week and at mums the other week. Truth is if you aren't enjoying that week then the kids probably don't enjoy that week either.
Time to have a chat with your partner about the set up. Make it clear it's not that you don't like his kids and that you like seeing them when he is there but you are not there mother or father and a new arrangement needs to be made. You should be able to both take the week off together and spend time off as a family at least occasionally.
You shouldn't be giving up your holidays for his children. If you weren't in the picture what would happen then? My partner isn't my boys dad and I would never ask this of him
Although I live half hour away from my ex, he has every second weekend and half holidays... More often then not bio dad is working when our child visits and so our child is left with the step mother and step sibling/s some holidays they go away some they don't. Biggest peeve for me is bio dad hardly being present when our child visits and the fact that our child is given the iPad and spends hours and hours on it or spends the weekend doing dads chores with him. Your partner needs to rethink what contact he has- all well and good to want the time but if he isn't going to be present then I'm sorry it is pointless (sorry but regardless of you or other children the child/ten should be building a relationship with the father first and foremost.... That's the whole point of them being there)