Hello, Has anyone had a history of depression to find out eventually they have adult ADD? My whole life I have been up and down and never felt quite right. This is the same on antidepressants. I try them and they help but I still feel like something isn't right. I am still on them. I have tried different ones and different doses.
I can't concentrate, my mind races. I forget things, lose things. I get flustered.My mind is scattered, I half do things. I can't get organized, I am always late and in a panic because I am late then I forget more stuff. This is beyond writing a list of things to do. I can be home all day, feel like I have been busy (in my mind) then realise I haven't gotten anything done. Then I feel like I am making excuses as to why.
So many of my symptoms mimic depression. I let people down then comes the hopelessness and feelings of worthlessness.
I am constantly letting people down and it never occurred to me it could be ADD. Somehow I stumbled across it and it's like I have found what is wrong with me. I actually feel relieved because I feel I have found the answer. I have an appointment with a psychiatrist to discuss. I just feel and have felt like I can't continue like this, it's getting harder to function each day. It's causing strain in our marriage, we have a business and kids. I feel constantly overwhelmed. I don't have a lot on my plate and I just crumble under pressure. My husband does more and more for me and I still can't cope. Everyday life is harder every day. I don't know how long I can hold on like this.
Believe me I don't want this, I do want an answer though. I just want to know why I am the way I am. I always just thought this is who I am and I have hated it. I have felt completely powerless to change, though I have tried. I just want to feel better and enjoy my kids. I don't want to get ahead of myself but if I am diagnosed what do I expect with medication?
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Adult ADD and depression
Adult ADD and depression
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I don't have any advice I'm sorry but just wanted to say that this happened to my brother. He is 27 and up until last year he thought he had depression and was treated accordingly. Last year he was diagnosed with ADD and is now on medication for that. I think he's doing better but he doesn't like to talk about it so I honestly don't really know. I know he was relieved to find a reason as to why he was the way he was.
Its great you are seeking a second opinion and I hope this you find some answers and can start to feel better.
I had a history of depression turned out I have ASD. Explained why I didn't cope with social situations etc. why i needed so much time to myself and why I missed social queues etc.
Having ASD led to me being depressed. Since diagnosis things have been much better. I've developed some better coping mechanisms etc and giving me answers I'd felt were missing my entire life.
Wow you seem to have read my mind. I have been this way for longer than i care to remember and i am now 38. I dont have any words to help you. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone xx
My husband had ADHD as a kid, it was only ever handled with Ritalin.
His Dad has manic depression so I worry about this happening to him.
He is in his late 30's and still bounces off walls. He has Anxiety which he struggles getting to social engagements once there he is fine.
He looses everything.
Never finnishes anything, we joke he is like a goldfish.
I rang beyond blue on how to cope with him, he wears me out.
He used to be on edge constantly but we intervened and he got medication for his anxiety. Then he had a saw leg and he took magnesium.
He said Its the clearest his thoughts have been ever. He is calm, sleeping, rational (not agressive, but silly)
He works for himself, he is very organised in the business, but at home he is like a child which is good for our kids.
Although he does have bouts of depression where he will just goto bed if the going gets tuff. (Not sure if thats a learned thing)
He is fantastic on the 2 tablets and I can really tell if he hasn't taken them.
I could have written this.
I'm in the process of getting my thyroid and iron levels etc checked.
I'm not able to pretend everything is ok anymore.
I'm checking my body 1st and then my mind.
Good luck xx
Mu husband was diagnosed a couple of years ago with ADD as an adult and recently has been diagnosed with anxiety/depression as well. He described and did everything you mentioned. the best option is speaking with your psych as honestly as you can as they can give you not only tools to manage but also prescribe medication where necessary.
One big thing that I implemented in our house is my whiteboards/blackboards. we resorted to painting the front of our freezer and drawing a couple of blank months work of calenders on them (so we can change the months as we go). Everything is on there. Every activity for the kids and us, as well as appointments etc it all goes on there.
your hubby is an amazing man and make sure you are also telling him how you feel. My husband didn't tell me for a long time he was struggling with certain things and organisation and it did put a strain on our marriage but now we have plans in place and I make sure I alter things so they work for him too. You will get through this *HUGZ*
What you said resonates with me. I have struggled most of my 49 years with this. After returning to formal education in 2013, I decided to have an assessment for learning disorders and/or ADD. This came about after my youngest daughter was diagnosed with a learning disorder in Grade 1 and her symptoms and demeanor mostly mirrored mine, except for the compulsive lying, which I did not or have ever done. My assessment turned out a bit of a disappointment as I was just told that I suffer anxiety!! Dah really! One day soon I will do another assessment. I do get what your saying but the only advice I can give is eat clean, no or very little processed foods. Low Carb High Fat (LCHF) has improved my anxiety and energy levels. Take care.