So, hubby and I haven't been TTC but more of a 'not caring if it happens' type thing since Dec 2013. We are both early 30's.
I had a miscarriage in 2014 and an ectopic 6 months later (tube removed). And every month before ovulation/at ovulation we have had unprotected sex roughly every 2-3 days. So the chances of conceiving are quite high (in respect to timing etc)
We both want kids, but honestly, its not high on our priority list just yet. We are quite happy with it being just the two of us even though everyone in our lives are having kids/falling pregnant/asking us when are we going to have them etc.
Ideally, in a perfect world I would love for it to happen naturally on its own, because I don't want the stress of TTC/Charting/Treatments etc. (I know the world is not perfect otherwise I would have 2 kids by now and one on the way)
Its now been over 12 months since the last pregnancy and still nothing. I know my chances are already less than everyone else, and its been proven time and time again when all my girl friends, sisters fall pregnant on the first go...which can be a real kick in the guts.
So my question is. At what point do I need to start looking into underlying fertility issues/treatments/IVF. Please don't tell me when I'm ready, because I will never be ready. If you have been in a similar position, what was your turning point? Time? Age? Peer pressure? Or preparation for when you felt ready?
I don't know what I'm hoping to find. Maybe just some similar stories?
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Honestly I would start now. It sounds like it's in the back of your mind anyway and so getting the answers sooner, so at least you know where you stand sounds smart to me.
I think we'd all love to have it happen naturally but as life has shown me, nobody is guaranteed that.
I think you deserve some answers so at least you can make a plan.
After ttc for 9 months after a miscarriage it finally happened and I put it down to diet. I started to eat extremely clean (Paleo to be exact, no grains, dairy, sugar or processed foods) the month prior to conceiving and I know that for me that is what did it. I would urge you to look into it, as at the end of the day it's the simplest thing you can try within your control and it certainly can't hurt. There's lots of anecdotal evidence out there that supports diet being a contributing factor, as for some of us to fall pregnant our bodies really need to be in the best condition they can be and food is medicine! Good luck I wish you all the best :) xx
If you haven fallen pregnant in 12 months, it's time to get checked out now, at least to get professional info on what the next step might be (then you can decide if you want to do it). I foolishly spent 2 years 'not not trying' because I knew it had taken my parents 5 years to conceive, and I just thought that was normal. I was about 30 when I sought advice on my fertility, because I felt the clock was ticking and I noticed how easily other women in my life fell pregnant. I had some issues that required drugs, surgery and IVF (which didn't work) but about 3 years later I fell pregnant naturally. Fantastic, but you also need to consider any subsequent children. Eg, I'd be at least 37 if we fell pregnant again.
There's no perfect time to have a baby and it's hard to feel ready for something and want something you've never had before. We did IVF and I still had thoughts of am I ready , do I really want a baby ect.... personally though if I was in your position I would be seeking some help from a fertility clinic. Fertility clinics aren't all IVF like many people think. They take look at your history... run some hormone tests and probably just give you an overall conclysion on how your ferrtility is. They can help pinpoint ovulation and help you get pregnant quicker. ...that's what I'd be going for as time can fly and the longer you leave it the harder it is !!