Hi IMs
I'm looking for some advice about Rugby League.
I have a 8 year old and 10 year old boy who desperately want to play, I am all for it. They currently don't have any other extra curricular activities. But their dad won't agree. He said it is dangerous and he won't budge. What's worse is for some reason his mother has decided her opinion on the matter counts as well, and also says they shouldn't play as she never let her sons play 'dangerous' sports out of school (even tho they played them at school).
It's really starting to get to me, as it feels like my opinion or the wants of my wants don't matter at all because they have some fixation on it being a dangerous sport. I said to my husband that he has no problem letting our sons go in the car and that's dangerous but all he ever responds with is 'no rugby is dangerous'. We even go hiking as a family and have seen and had close calls with snakes, yet he doesn't put a stop to that. I wonder if he just doesn't want to offend his mother? Or because he's doesn't want to commit to spending the time at there games or training?
Are there any IMs here who have boys, or girls, who play Rugby? Have they ever been injured? Are you against them playing but let them anyway?
Sport out of school
Sport out of school
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I did ballet growing up. Seems harmless right?? Wrong!
Damaged feet, poor body image issues leading to anorexia etc. Damaged knees, hips, back etc.
I agree with you, everything we do has risk to it. There is nothing that is risk free.
I'd be focusing on what the boys want to do, not what either parents want. I'd also focus on the rules, etc. Are there modified rules. Ask your husband what part of rugby he thinks is dangerous. What are his feers. Was there something he wasn't allowed to do growing up, how did that make him feel??
I'm not sure. Sport is one thing, rugby is head hits. I have a friend who wouldn't let their boys do rugby, they play touch instead.
Look at all the professionals they're faces are messed up, false teeth, and how all those hits affects their brains as they get older.
Don't get me wrong, I love adventure sport and do kickboxing but I think he has a right to an opinion.
But you need to talk to him to find out his thinking, then get some information on it, then come to an agreement.
Our boy is in U7's union its just 2 hand touch. Next year they tackle.
Although he is a rough and tumble kid. He was too rough for soccer.
He also plays Tennis which are all his choice.
Each to their own. I would respect your husband decision as you would want your decision respected.
Maybe if the boys really want to play they could ask their father or show an interest in the televised or local games. If he saw their interest he may change his mind.
My parents ran a junior league club for years my brother played, he never hurt him self.
But he is an adult and still races motor cross.
Plenty of things out there to do.