My family is at a cross roads and we really dont know what to do. The last 3 years have been crap (no other word for it). Aside from the birth of our only child nothing has been right. No matter how hard my hubby tries he just cant seem to find a job. He tries so hard, its heartbreaking. The last job interview he went to there were 2 positions and over 600 applicants! When he has found work, hes made redundant before his probation is up. Last job he had, he was made redundant a week after being promoted. He is re-training at the moment and we have used up all our hard earned savings on living instead of buying a house. I know we can start again but its heartbreaking seeing all our hard work go down the drain. We dont live beyond our means. We live very simply. Now we are having to rely on welfare (and i hate every second of it) hubby is trying to find any work but noone is hiring or he is too old (frustrating!) Im chronically ill and i study part time. We cant afford child care hence why im part time. Im also looking for work with no success. Our lease is up in June so we have the opportunity to move away from the area we are in with bugger all jobs to a different area with better opportunities. But with having no job to move with im hesitant to leave as this is where our family live also (very tight knit family). I have no idea how we would pay to move either as we dont get enough to save money. Everything we get goes to rent, bills, food, medical and transport costs (and of course our child). I hate being on welfare, hubby wants to work!!! But we have a support system here and with my medical conditions im in and out of hospital (stresses causes me to go down hill). Its a damned if we do, damned if we dont situation. At the moment hubby is doing odd jobs and garden work that brings in some cash (yes we delcare all of this). But its not a lot.
** Please dont have a go because we are relying on welfare. We are not blugers. We dont drink, smoke, do drugs. We do the right thing. We go over and above what is expected of us. We work bloody hard.
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Honey, welfare is there for you to use. That's why the system is there. Your taxes paid for that system.
I know how you feel, 2 years ago I left work to look after my multiple illness/disabled adult son. I loved working and would prefer to work, but circumstances won't allow. Money is tight but doable. Of course I would prefer to return to work and that my son is healthy.
Its a tough decision I'd probably stay where you are if you are chronically sick. It sounds like the finances aren't there anyway.
If I was going to move, I'd apply for jobs where you are going first, with the aim of sending hubby to work his probation period first before the family follows him. Moving before work is secured would be a disaster and where there are jobs usually rent is a bit dearer too, so you'd be moving, paying more rent and no job.