This is going to sound ridiculous so bare with me please...
Does anyone out there have a son who has stayed close/ their friend when he is grown up? (See ridiculous right?)
I tried for 2 years to have my son. It was a really tough time. 2 miscarriages. Lots of aniexty through a tough pregnancy and now.
My son is my world. But then i see people saying things like a daughter is a daughter for life a son is a son until he takes a wife. My heart sinks..
My hubby isnt close to his parents and doesn't see them regularly.
I would be heartbroken if my son wasn't close when hes older. Obviously I know he will have his own life but is it possible he will stay my friend? Does anyone have experience?
son staying close, possible?
son staying close, possible?
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I know what you mean. My heart sank at this prospect too.
It's not true - the saying.
I have 5 sons. Very close with 4 of them. One of them was my problem child lol. We just 'clash' - he now lives 5 hours away and I don't see him too often. Two others live an hour away and I see them quite often. All five of them talk to me about 'stuff' that worries them etc.
My partner is very close to his parents (more so his mum) and sees them regularly. Confides in them, asks them for advice etc.
It really comes down to your relationship with them. It will be ok :)
I really hope so. Id love to be able to be his friend when hes older. (When he young of course too) be able to chat or have coffer together. Those sorts of things.
I just hope he still loves his mama when hes grown lol!
I was the opposite. Terrified about having a girl because I often didn't get along with my mum whereas my 3 brothers all do (our relationship got a lot better once I had my own baby). All of the men I know; dad, brothers, husband, all have great relationships with their mothers. Haven't you heard the saying mummy's boy?! You'll be just fine x
It's a really stupid saying!!!
My friend has 3 adult sons they are all very close to there mum. See each other a few times a week. Really nice young men who think the world of there mum.
My dad sees his parents at least once a week. Speaks on the phone once a week and goes on holiday at least every 2 years.
My son is 21. He is my only child. We have always done things together like go out for lunches, go to the hairdressers together etc. We still do this stuff today and I can't see it ending anytime soon!
A lot is how you raise them and what you model for them. If you are close to your parents, and if you start young setting time aside now, and being close now, it won't stop. It may slow off a bit at times and get better at times.
Daughters are no guarantee of a close relationship at all. I can think of a number of friends who never or rarely speak to there parents.
My husband doesn't have any contact with his mother, but that was abusive and controlling.
But my brother is 26, and still lives with our mum. They're so close that he actually had his girlfriend move in with them, instead of finding a place together. ?
Ah this makes me feel so much better thank you!
I fear the same but I'm always open with my son I am his best friend we fight I yell. But I also explain. We talk alot.
My brother wasn't that close to my mum growing up but rings her daily & he is 35.
Try but don't try to hard. Just be there.
That saying is stupid. Don't believe it, I have 2 sons and I know no matter what they will always be my sons if they get married or not. He will still love you and be close to you but you have to realize he will have his own life to. This comes from personal experience as well as my partner moved out of home at 29, his mum hated me for a long time, it's been nearly 2 years and she is only adjusting now she saw me as stealing him which I've only encourage a relationship. Your son will be fine, as long as you will be ok allowing him to have a life.
My partner hates his mother, because she hates me. I had a child previously out of wedlock & she was against the idea. So my advice is as long as you are accepting of his future wife/husband than that will be a great start!
Absolutely possible! My dad is very close to his mum, they have dinner together once a week. And my 21 year old cousin who was raised by a single mum still holds her hand and is openly affectionate to her.