This question is for people who have more than two kids and whose first two kids were a boy and girl...
I'm in my early 30's and have got two beautiful children. A pigeon pair. Lately I've been feeling clucky. It's a big decision to have a third. Did people know without a doubt they wanted a third or was there a bit of back and forth in their minds? Because I've got a boy and girl, I don't understand why I want another one. One of my fears is that there are no guarantees that the next one will be healthy, too.
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I find it a bit sad you don't understand why you want another one just because you have a boy and a girl...why would what is between your child's legs stop you from wanting more kids? If you want more, have more!
Having kids isnt about getting the 'right' gender, its about filling your home with love and wanting to share more of your love.
If you are in doubt, talk to your husband/partner, it is just as much their decision as it is yours.
Weigh up the pros and cons of practical things, can you afford it? Would you need a bigger car? House?
Having 2 kids is great im sure, the 'picture perfect' family ( and most holidays and family passes are geared up for 2 adults and 2 kids!) But i love the full house of 3 kids, yes its a bit of chaos but i do love it
It would be nice for one of your kids to experience what it's like having a same sex sibling. Go for the third! :)
The only reason to have a baby in my opinion is because you want one, can afford it and have the emotional energy to give to a child.
Children shouldn't be born with jobs of 'completing a family', completing a person, fulfilling a gender stereotype, or creating a 'pair'.
You have a baby because you want to add to your family and because you can give the baby what it needs. There is No such thing as an ideal family.
Sounds like your reasons fit my criteria :)
I had a boy and a girl. Hubby was happy but I wanted another. So we did. Was the best thing we did. But after her were done and know it our family is full.
I was in the same position I had both a boy and girl then I got pregnant with my third and it worried me that because of my age he wouldn't be healthy and I was unsure how the other kids would take to him. In January I gave birth to my baby boy and as I feared he has had health problems that have had him in and out of hospital. I have never once regretted having my third baby and my other two children love him like I have never seen before. The health problems cause us all in the house stress but none of us including the older two would not want to have him here.