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My daughter disclosed information over the last few days about how her grandfather.. My step dad.. Has been raping her and sexually Assaulting her since she was a small child. She's now a teen and has finally had the courage to put a stop to it.
My adoration for her is beyond anything I can write.. I'm in awe.
Tonight we have to ask our other two if they've been Interfered with..
A criminal investigation has been launched and he is going to be charged.
To say I'm gutted is.. An understatement. I'm absolutely flawed by the fact.. I didn't know. I didn't stop it. I feel sick. I feel devastated. My husband and I aren't coping.
I sleep for maybe 20 mins at a time.. And I have nightmares. Nightmares of her killing herself.. Or him getting her.
I don't know what to do. She's being so strong.. Here I am.. In actual pieces. That's our baby..
I know none of this is about me.. But she's my child. We are literally 48 hours in and this is all new, to us, and I don't know what to do.
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You will need counselling for yourself. Remember she is being strong because she has been processing this information for a long time but it will hit her at some point. You have had all this happen at once.
You will need help processing this and so I'd speak to your GP about a referral for yourself. If police have given you contact info regarding counselling for victims also use those contacts.
I recently found out that my own father had been doing this to my step sisters daughter for a period of 8 years. It stopped about 8 years ago now but has only just come out as she only just found the courage to speak up. I have no advice as I am still in shock myself. When I found out I just stared at the floor for 2-3 days like a mental patient. I was completely absent from my body. My poor kids pretty much had to fend for themselves. Our situation is still yet to be dealt with by the authorities as she is not ready to make that step yet and nobody can do it for her as she is now an adult. Stay strong for your daughter. She will need you. I just wanted to send you a big virtual hug! xx
I'm the original poster.
I've read each and every one of the beautiful responses that have been written. We are very grateful for every Comment and piece of advice.
My daughter is ok.. She wants justice and is coping really well.
My husband and I are not.. In varying degrees. Men and women are different for a reason. I'm stuck on the day I found out and what's been done and I can't move.
I sit and stare or cry. But I know I'll be ok.. Maybe. One day.
Counselling will be set up ASAP. We have to wait for intake to be done.
Thank you all again you're all very lovely. I feel very supported. Thank you x