My husband and I were intimate the other night and the condom broke. I think the chances are quite slim of me being pregnant (according to an online test my fertility score was 7.5/10) but a test won't likely be able to tell me until at least next Friday.
The issue is that it is my 30th birthday this weekend and I am having a big party. This will possibly be my last and best opportunity to drink and have fun with all of my friends and family, including quite a few from interstate.
My husband and I already have a few kids and, while we were not planning another, we are not adverse to one either. While I am 100% pro choice, abortion is not a choice I would consider for myself.
So my question is, knowing there is a somewhat possibility you could be pregnant, would you drink/enjoy yourself at the party, or would you not risk it on the off chance that you are?
I'm so conflicted right now! Thank you for any advice...
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No I would not, party!
Go and have a great night!!!
The chance is very small and you only get your 30th once. You don't want to regret not having a great night!!!
PS we had a huge one for hubbys 30th, I barely remember it because I was so drunk and I never drink normally but did for his party.
A week later we found out I was pregnant.
Our son is 5 now and perfect!!! I had a lot of guilt but he is fine.
Am I wrong to think one blow out early on isn't that bad? I feel it's repetitive excessive alcohol use thats an issue.
I had a few blowouts in the first weeks of my pregnancy, before I knew, I'm sure it's common.
If you don't want a baby could you get the pill? You have up to 3 days, then you could be absolutely be certain.
Have a big one! You don't turn 30 every week!
It's only a possibility not a certainty. Go out and have a big one its your 30th. I know people who didn't know they were pregnant until 12 or more weeks and were partying hard until they found out. Kids have come out fine. I however didn't party, didn't do anything wrong and I ended up with children with Autism and I knew days after falling pregnant with them that I was pregnant.
Here is the thing, if you are pregnant and go out and drink and by chance your baby is sick/has w disability etc, even if it's totally unrelated to drinking in the early days, you will spend the rest of your life punishing yourself.
I didn't know I was pregnant, no idea, had a big night. It would have been very early days. The amount of guilt I carry. I've been told my sons laundry list of illness and disabilities are unrelated but I will NEVER be ok and will always have What IF.
And I'd rather regret not going on the piss for a night than regret my sons illnesses. One night, versus a child's rest of life.
If she happens to be pregnant it would only be early likely implantation wouldn't have even taken place by the weekend, and even then your baby is not sharing your blood supply until around 3 weeks. So it's safer than you think. How do you think most woman get on that don't know they are pregnant
The baby's nervous system is developed within the first month of conception. Most mums don't even know they're pregnant then and don't really cut out alcohol etc until they know.
It's a risk. When I was pregnant I couldn't drink very much anyway before my head started spinning. The body's way of protecting the foetus I guess?
If it were me I'd party but carefully. Listen to your body. Don't go stupid if it's reacting differently than it normally does.
I say go for it... The baby does not tap into your blood supply until around 3 weeks :-)
Drink till it's pink or sober till it's over???
When is af due? Do you know when you might of ovulated?? If your 7.5 was before ovulation it is still rather possible but if it was after ovulation chances are a little slimmer.
If you do happen to be pregnant drinking will not affect the fetous in the first couple weeks because it is not yet linked to our bodies (not yet sharing blood supply)
Plus woman not trying will sometimes be drinking but won't know until a late period. But myself I am on the side of drink till it's pink, my hubby and I are currently ttc fertile window came and went (chances of pregnancy are high) but this weekend we went away alone without older kids for first time in years, and I had a few here and there but Saturday night meet up with some friends and got a little drunk. But I can't test to find out until late next week. All i can say enjoy your possible last hoorah. You can't stop plans on the of chance of a slight possibility