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I so desperately want another baby.
Adds with babies make me cry, i can't walk past the baby clothes isle without getting emotional, i watch new born youtibe videos regularly.
My hubby wants one too, on one condition.
I lose weight.
I'm 164cms and weigh around 68kgs give or take a few. I wear a size 10-12 pant...
I know i have a few kilos i could lose.
When i met hubby i was 58kgs and a size 8.
My weight is a constant battle with him. Everyday, numerous times, i get asked if i done a workout, what i have eaten, when have i eaten, how long did i train for, what did i train, did i do cardio, etc.
I am beginning to feel as of i am not good enough for him. He works 10 hour days, 6 days a week. He comes home and does a work workout. He has muscles, and a banging body to match.
He is seriously so handsome too.
And then there is me. Fat, lumpy, saggy, me.
I used to be able to wear sexy lingerie for him all the time. I would 'dressup' at least twice a week for him. Now when he asks me too, i am too embarrassed. He says i look sexy and gets turned on and everything. But then when i am simply getting dressed for the day, or having a shower or in my pjs, he always comments on my weight.
I want to lose weight, i try and eat healthier. But the constant badgering is wearing me down. It is emotionally wearing.
What have other mummas done to lose weight? And food plan ideas? Or motivational ideas?
All i want is a baby :(
I guess i didn't have a question so much as to have a vent, and someone to listen to my woes.
9 Replies
This is not about loosing weight! Your hubby needs to stop this. It's very unhealthy for everyone. He is not the weight police.
He needs to shut up!
Wait, hold on.
I understand that there are health risks with being overweight and pregnant,
But seriously?
You're a size 10!
I'm sorry, I know you asked for adviced about weightloss, but I can't just ignore what's written between the lines.
(And I personally don't think you need dieting tips!)
He's regularly insulting you. He's dragging you down emotionally, and convinced you that you aren't good enough for him.
You've had a baby. Your body will never be perfect again. And that's okay!
And if he isn't going to happy with that, then that is HIS problem. Not yours.
Your body has created a LIFE. A HUMAN. It should be celebrated, not insulted.
It shouldn't matter about your weight. Are you HEALTHY?
Eat healthy, stay active, and enjoy your life.
And if he isn't happy and wants to force you to lose weight, then I know a way to lose 80kg fast! ;)
Your husband of a projecting his own body image issues onto you and that's not cool!! I'm 154cm tall and weigh close to 100kg after 4 kids! I workout 4 times a week and have a relatively strict diet. I'll send you a nude selfie for you to show him so you can say "you should be glad I don't look like that!".
You are not fat! Maybe soft in comparison to his rock hard muscles however he needs to shut the hell up and get off your case. Or he could be more pro active and instead of bitching at you he could say "hey babe let's go for a walk/run... Do you want to work out with me tonight“.. Badgering you like this is not on.
Wow, just..wow.
There is more to relationships to valuing someone's appearance.
I understand exactly what you mean about feeling frumpy (height 165cm and post-children weight about the same as yours).
It is not the end of the universe if you are not back to your pre-preg shape.
Part of an enduring relationship is loving someone as they change and age, in body and mind.
Just keep working on your fitness for yourself. Start telling him if you lost him that's a whole lotta weight loss already.
Having a baby changes your body in so many ways, if your partner has a problem with a few lbs then you may be setting yourself up.
Wow!! There is so much I can say to that but let me just stick to the points: you have grown and birthed a baby, the changes that has on your body are full on! What used to work for you exercise wise, may not. Training shouldn't feel like a chore and and in no way should you have to explain ANYTHING to him. The fact that he continues to put you down screams alarm bells to me. He is a superficial ass who doesn't have a clue how lucky he is to have you and your child. Another baby isn't going to fix this! I have 2 small bubs and it's harder to juggle diet/exercise. Tell him how you feel! You shouldn't have to put up with this. Do you really want this stress to continue while growing a second baby and knowing that you will put on weigh again so that the baby is healthy? Just something to think about. As the mother of his child, you deserve to be worshipped, not picked on! Remember that, lovely!
Gosh, size 10 - 12...you have nothing to worry about, it's your husband that needs to check himself!
I am sorry that he makes you feel that way....perhaps you may have to 'cut him off' for a while till he changes his attitude....anytime he tries it on just tell him that he's made you feel very unsexy and that youre not in the mood!
And i suppose he doesnt consider looking after a baby, Home or him as work. He might be Handsome with a hot bod but he is acting like a toad , he needs to get real and stop acting like a school Boy
Wow, is he controlling much??