Hi sisters! So right now im aitting at uni in one of the common rooms just chilling, attempting to study but I cant. I feel SO lonely and disconnected! Im a young mum (early 20's) studying full time and I just cant seem to make friends. Everyone my age is usually childless and in a completely different dynamic to me. I get along well with the mature aged students however find I get spoken over the top of and treated as the child of the group (not something I enjoy!). There just doesnt seem to be somewhere I fit. Im either too mature or not mature enough. I just cant seem to remember how to interact here, how do I make friends? Please IM's help a mumma out, what am I doing wrong? Whats the "right" thing to do? I freak out every lecture/tute, am I talking enough/too much? Am I being inviting? Do I come across snobish? Do I come across stupid? Boring? Am I sitting too close/too far? Am I being too direct? Obnoxious?
Please any help, im dying of lonilness here
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As a single mum myself, studying full time at uni, i understand what you mean!
I see all the young ones laughing and connecting and think why can't that be me?
But then i remember i am thete to provide a better life for my girl. Study hard, and get where i want in life.
What i have done previously is talk to the people beside me, and sit next to them throughout the semester. I even ask for their fb and ask questions about assessments and answer their questions :)
I'm in 3rd year now and have about enough friends i can count on one hand hehe but they are the ones i can rely on for help and coffee dates for thosr lonely days :)
Wheb you find out let me know. I'm 25 with a 7 and 5 year old and no friends. I did playgroup but can't go anymore (kids are too old now) but still no luck, i talk, i invite people to things and around to my house, no one ever comes. The only time I get invited to people's things is when it's a playgroup 'group' thing. I'm so lonely :(