Those days when you just cant handle your child.. My girl is 2 and it is truly terrible.. She's up all hours of the night, refuses to eat anything I put in front of her, chucks tantrums at the smallest things.. And I know its just what they do, trust me I worked with children for years before having my own, it was always easier, of Corse, because you didn't have them 24/7.. I just want to know how other mothers cope when they are at the very end of their rope, about to have a massive maniacal meltdown complete with kicking and screaming..
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I have 2 kids, my youngest is 14 months and she is exactly like you described. My oldest is at school so I'm only with my youngest all day.
On days where I can't handle it I go to my room, shut the door and just scream into a pillow. Count to 10 slowly while breathing in and out and then go and tackle this parenting business once again.
You put them in daycare, or hand them over to dad or nana for the day and go have some time to yourself!
Or you put them in crèche at the gym and go and kick a bag!
If you can't do that you put them in the cot, for 15mins and go and scream, regroup and come back.
But you time is the answer, everyone needs a break now and then. And schedules regular breaks are good for mum and miss 2.
Go out. Play centre, play date, do something, anything. It feels so hard to go out but staying in is harder.
My son isn't even two yet, and he's been labelled a 'high risk' for ADHD.
Calling him a handful is an understatement. He can go from the sweetest, cuddliest, well mannered toddler you've met, to an absolute nightmare within minutes.
As hard as it is, you have to put yourself first as often as you can.
Do you have a partner who can give you a break? Or a relative?
There are some days that I'm shoving my toddler at my husband as he walks through the door after work. And he's amazing about it, because he knows 'those days' are more stressful than anything that he deals with at work!
If I can't rely on my husband, I try and go out.
I pack up my sons trike and we go to a park.
Or the pools.
Or a play centre.
Or anywhere we he can run around and end up being so exhausted, he doesn't have the energy to be a little poop, haha.
I also take him to playgroup once a week (soon to be twice) with my mum. It gives me a chance to sit down with a muffin and a coffee, and watch him have fun.
And Mr Grumpy Butt almost always fall asleep in the car on the way home!
I really love my playgroup days, haha. I can actually catch my breath and enjoy being a mother, instead of a stresshead!
Also, when I need a break at home - I rely on Mr TV to be the baby sitter! It's a need some days when I'm on the verge of a massive tantrum of my own, haha. And he won't let me clean the house without screaming the roof down, so here's to watching the only movie he enjoys for literally the hundredth time!