Ive just found out my young daughter has been sexually assulted its been going on for a while i had no idea. Im wondering how other parents have coped with this. I feel like killing the person and i blame myself for not spotting the red flags sooner. Im absolutely devasted and im finding it really hard to control my anger. The authorities are involved and i will do everything possible to get my daughter through this. Its had a huge impact on me and im wondering if anyone sort counciling for themselves aswell as the victim
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Definitely seek counselling for yourself too! Of course you need a safe person to vent to, decompress, discuss strategies for you etc.
My boyfriend was sexually assaulted in HS and although he got counselling his parents never dealt with it enotionally. It's really stopped the family from healing properly.
As a mum who has gone through the same thing, I definitely recommend counselling for yourself as well as your daughter. Those feelings you are experiencing are totally normal, I went through them all myself. Reach out to Bravehearts which is a fantastic organisation that will be able to offer you invaluable advice. Try to stay strong mumma and don't be afraid to lean on those around you for support.
My daughter was assaulted by her daycare worker. I just want to let you know that a year on (it was a very hard year) she is doing so well. We talk about everything and we've worked hard to re-establish her boundaries and reinforce who is safe for her to talk to and how to work that out. My husband and I are only really just starting to deal with the grief. My advise is get as much support as you can. For you and for your family unit. I promise that although it is s living hell, it isn't a death sentence. I am so so sorry for your broken hearts xxxxx