How do Mums deal with a break up? We have 3 kids under 3 and been together for 6 years. I have had enough. I asked him to leave and he did. I am not asking for him back I know it's the right thing to do but things got nasty and I dont want it to be that way, I want my kids to see it's still healthy to be apart and get along rather then together and constantly at each other. Today I've been struggling with loneliness and honestly struggling with having to do every single thing. I always appreciated the help he put in with the kids and so he should have they are his kids but having him and now nothing I'm a little caught off guard and fighting my own emotions. I don't want him back but the constant companionship is already leaving me questioning myself. I just need some tips or kind words to get me through this, I want to be strong and I know I can it just helps to hear some encouragement from other Mums and people who have gone through similar. Thanks xx
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It's an adjustment of course. And at the moment you are going through a breakup which is always hard. Once you get in to a routine and get everything settled it gets much, much easier. And three kids under 3 is bloody hard work!
It might be a good idea to look into some daycare, if you aren't already using it and think about what the care arrangement will be with the kids. Will you be happy to take the kids overnight etc (which will give you a rest).
But routine, routine, routine.
Thanks xx
I asked my husband to leave 6mths ago - 2yr old twin girls - he was leading two seperate lives and when the whole truth came out I sold our house and left... Fast forward 6mths and everything has finally caught up with me!
Try to take time out from the kids, get out and see friends...
Look after you!
My husband/ex husband lives in a room above a pub, so he still stays in my house 2-3nights a week - seperate rooms but meals together and family time he looks after the girls while I work...
The girls get it - which suprised me - if they are upset or miss daddy they ask to go to daddy's house and my house is my house..
It works for us, neither of us want to walk away from the marriage but we also agree we can't work on it while he is sorting out his own mental health...
We also get along better apart, I actually think we are better apart then together we both wanted our space I think..