Hello
I am a mother of 2 beautiful children. I have a very supportive husband. I should be happy. But I just feel like I'll never be good enough.
I have medical conditions and chronic pain issues, and it limits me so much physically, and I feel like I can't be a good wife or mother, because I'm always in so much pain, and the fatigue that goes with it is wiping me out. I know I just have to keep on going but I don't know how. I'm exhausted and sore and I just feel like I'm letting my kids down. I don't know, its hard to explain. Every time I take pain killers, I feel guilty that I'm not strong enough to go without. We are really struggling with money at the moment, and I feel bad that I can't work. I recently started smoking again and OMG the guilt from that is killing me, yet I don't seem to have enough strength to even stop that.
Just reading over this is filling me with disgust for myself. Oh, woe is me, just get on with it, don't be that person who is all about their illness!
I feel like I'll never be good enough. Am I the only one? My thoughts just go round and round with all the worries I have, why can't I just enjoy the good parts of my life?
Do other mums feel like a failure?
Do other mums feel like a failure?
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Mental Health, Anxiety & Depression, Parenthood Guilt
2 Replies
I get it, l have been there and its taken and taking yrs to figure my self out with consistent sessions over the last few yrs to my psychologist. I always felt not good enough and it was trying to get to the root cause of why l was viewing myself this way. It was all about how l was brought up. This might sound cliche but the mantras of 'you can do it' etc do work over time. I basically started to ignore my pain and by doing that l feel less pain now where are before l would say l cant do this or that all the time but now l force myself to say actual yes l can do it. Seeing people in far worse situations than myself helped to 'just get on with it' now lm enjoying all small wins everyday! Good luck
Do you think you might be suffering from depression? Either way when you have physical issued its quite normal to need some help to cope mentally with accepting that you aren't a failure, but that you are sick and have genuine reasons!
Are there any services your family could be using that you aren't using to lighten the load a bit?
Have you seen a counsellor or psychologist on a mental health care plan?