Recently I found out my (now) ex slept with someone else last September, while he had moved out for a few weeks because we were having trouble. We got back together and planned a big trip, and apparently just before we left, he tried to kiss this girl again, but she knew we were back together and said no.
Since he had come back home in September, he was begging for us to have a baby, which happened while we were away and I am now 10 weeks pregnant. I found out about the girl by accident, and confronted him and he admitted everything. Even that he had feelings with her before our trip, and that he doesn't 'think' he still does. But he also admitted that hes been unhappy for a while now and should have had the balls to end it with me and didn't. He never suggested anything about making it work, even now with the baby, but claims he still wants to be apart of the babies life and will support me as much as he can.
I guess I don't really have a question, I just feel so lost at the moment. I was with this man for 7 years and I feel like he is not the same person anymore. He has a stressful job and everything became about work and 'him time', and never about family time.I don't know where to go to from here.
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What you are feeling is quite normal after being cheated on. And that's what he was doing. Yes it makes you question the entire relationship and makes you doubt everything he has ever said.
Don't let yourself get close to him again. You need to get your emotional walls up so that he can't talk you into bed because if he does that this roller coaster will continue.
The best thing I did when I found out I was pregnant to my ex was get legal advice, including how co-patenting would look with a new born. And some counselling. It really allowed me to make smart decisions that were fair for everyone and gave my son the best outcome possible.