Hi mums, l need some advice! I have an 11 yr old son who has ADHD. He is on medication, but mornings can be horrific with behaviour, rudeness, oppositional, refusal. Every school morning is a battle, he can't get to sleep at night so mornings are difficult for him to wake up. He loves school & is an angel there but at home he is great when it suits him (esp if he wants something)
He is in year 6 and has been awarded library monitor which is fantastic, there is an assembly this week for him to get his badge. Should I go? His behaviour this morning was really bad, he has an older brother & two half brothers 3&5 who witness his behaviour and 11 year old thinks it's funny, he laughs in my face sometimes. For me to go I have to take both little ones and sit in the assembly for an hour, I just don't know what to do. He has school camp next week so is that enough to say that's reward for it?
Should I go to school assembly for son who is rude to me?
Should I go to school assembly for son who is rude to me?
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Yes of course you should go! He's a child, you are the adult and even if he is a shit at times you need to show that you are proud of his good behaviour at school
Yes you should go. Every parent should be there to support and recognise kids achievements. With lots of downs it might even be more important to celebrate the ups.
Yes of course you should go! I have a 12yo son who has just started high school this year & he has ADHD & is absolutely horrible to me his dad & brother & sister, he behaves exactly the same as what you have mentioned! He has me in tears every single morning & afternoon when he gets home. This is going to sound awful but I dread weekends & him coming home from school, but he's an absolute bloody Angel at school ? It's like I get to see him before his meds kick in & when they're wearing off! & my family don't understand & say 'there's no such thing as ADHD, he's just being a kid' they don't have to deal/live with his shit!! Sorry for the life story, just had to let it out lol anyway imagine what he's going through mentally, & what it would do to he's confidence if you punished him by not turning up to this... That's just not the right thing to do at all. Maybe you should make an app with he's pead & see if he needs his meds/dosage reevaluated? That's what I'm doing with my son at he's next app. Please don't punish him for doing something good, you're not going to assembly to praise he's morning behaviour!
Just to add have you tried melatonin to help with sleep? Worth talking to his doctor about if you haven't.
It sounds to me like you really don't want to go and are trying to justify you not wanting to go on his behaviour. You really should go if it's feasible. If you have an opportunity to see your son receiving an award/badge at school and miss it for something he cannot control because of his ADHD then that's pretty petty. I know plenty of mums that miss out on being able to watch these kinds of things due to work. I know it's hard I have two with Autism but I still attempt to watch the important things with their little sister in tow and she can be a terror. Put those feelings of anger aside and think about how you would feel if you were in his position.
Ps have you seen about a dosage of medication that you can give him when he is at home. I know someone who's son is medicated twice a day so she can cope with her son at home aswell a him being medicated at school. If you do see if it's possible for the school to give him his afternoon dose so that by the time he gets home his medication has kicked in.