my one year old has just started daycare while im studying.
its 3 times a week and we're into our second week.
they tell me he is always happy and having fun there, which is how he used to be, always smiling and happy and vibrant.
not when i get him home, its constant tantrums and crying..i already want to stop studying to make him go back to normal!!!
he will nap there, but now he will not go to bed at home! hes been crying in his cot for 30 minutes because i cant deal with his tantrums. what do i do??
no negativity please.
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Stick it out mumma!!! Daycare is a sensory overload! He will settle. Some kids go through this again when they start school (my boy did), tantrums and crying and crankiness, it takes a few weeks to settle. Hang in there x
Hey it's so hard isn't it!
My daughter was 1 in jan and started daycare. The first 2 wks she cried at drop off and then she settled a bit and is happy at drop off.
But the nightmare begins when I get her home, it's been 6 wks and she's still really grumpy after it
What I've learnt through my older son going through this is that it's completely normal.it will take them a few months to adjust and get into he rhythm.
Daycare is a lot different to home, they end up so over stimulated that when they get home in their comfortable environment they do muck up a lot.
Whilst it's really hard to deal with its bubs way of saying I'm home now, I'm safe, I know mum will look after me and I just want to vent and cry after a full on day.
As hard as it is you have to persevere. Give him a few more wks / up to a few months and he will be able to settle and self adjust to the changes.
It is SO hard at the start but honestly it is worth it and once they adjust you'll see a big difference in him.
I found my girl had big tantrums at sleep time at home too but I realised it's because she wanted me, I now do big cuddles and nursery rhymes before I lay her down and that helps her to settle
Don't give up your study, as hard as it is give it a few months and then re evaluate if it hasn't changed but honestly most bubs will adjust in time and you need to do this for you for your sake and to be able to study and further your career and for bub to be able to socialize and learn new skills and independance.
Good luck Mumma! Trust me you can do this just stay strong
Perfect response.
Could he be over tired after daycare? Have you tried lavender bath water and white noise at bed time? When I can't sleep I like to listen to classical music. I have this one album called "Night Music" and it's just a mixture of composers, I have truly never got past the 3rd song and rarely even get that far. Or there's waterfalls, the ocean etc. Both cheap options to see if they help. Stick it out, it will become routine and he will settle.
My son is 2 does day care 2 days a week and the days he comes home from.day care his a nightmare. Tied, crying, and tantrums. Even tho they sleep at day care its so full on they are extra tied. I also find if your child works out if they cry at a drop of a hat like mine does they get extra attention from the staff and therefore try the same trick at home where it doesnt work as good. My son has been going to day care for 6mths and it took him a good 2mths to get the swing of things but he still comes home a terror.
Take a big deep breath, say to yourself "I'm an awesome mummy, he just misses me". Once you've collected yourself, go back into him and give him a giant cuddle. It won't last forever!