i don't know how to start but long story short my step son is 5 turning 6 in a few weeks I've been apart of his life for past 2 year started off ftn weekend ect.
Anyway 5 months ago his mum called said come get him I'm done partner works away so I go get him have him few days she wants him back so did that. Happens again this time we keep him he visites every few weekends at hers. He's totally out of control swearing spitting and the I hate u I cope it every day my sons the same age so it's not that and hasn't seen his dad in 2yrs I'm feeling Brocken I do so much for this child help with homework which always take ages as he refuses to do it or anything I ask always answers back when dads around goes behind my back to get his way with snacks me n dad talk lots and work as a team
I feel broken like all I do is spend my time with step son making him do the right thing while my son dose it all alone and I'm so tired n cranky we don't have family fun or my son misses out because my step son plays up and sends us all in a bad mood we have cut sugar give him time out removed toys food ect but nothing works please help
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When was he last assessed by a paediatrician and psychologist??? That needs to happen ASAP. He needs a referral to both of these from a GP.
Don't waste time sitting on a public waiting list. Go private. It's really important not to fluff around and to get help for your step son.
Absolutely agree
When you've tried all the standard tricks and they're not working, you need to look deeper
My boys can be like this, they all have different combinations of asd, ADHD, spd, auditory processing disorder, it's really not their fault and with the right support and understanding their triggers it's made life much more bearable for all of us
And I've had moments where I've asked their dad to take them too, it can be exhausting some days
If the mother doesn't know what's going on for him either, she's probably feeling like a failure and overwhelmed too
Someone needs to get the ball rolling to see what's going on for this little dude
You're trying to do everything for him, help him and raise him. I really see that you are. What's the bet he really just wants to feel important to his dad though, the way he's looking at it is that he wants dad and dad is fobbing him off onto step mum. You can try and try but you're outside the square. Dad might need to take some time off work or change to local work where he is always around.
Dads left work and we now struggle big time with $$ and behaviour I work with special needs kids and see behaviour issues daily and we have given him time to settle in to new rules family life ect and I get I'm the one he may see as taking mums spot so I'm easy to lash out at but its never ending he gets told to get dressed it's a drama brush teeth another full on back chatting then to do homework it's never ending and I'm struggling daily to even stay now I love him and my partner but it's so out of control my poor son just happily to do what he's been told or has for dinner ect I just don't know if I can keep going