Hi sisters,
my ex and I are due to have a baby together in May. things have been really bad for a long time (he's controlling and has stalking tendencies) so I made the decision to leave him.
Every time he suggests getting back together and I say no, he tells me to kill myself and our baby. Is this emotional abuse?
is this emotional abuse?
is this emotional abuse?
Posted in:
Relationships & Marriage, Pregnancy, Baby & Toddler
3 Replies
Yes!!!
Make sure you do everything in your power to minimise contact. Honestly I would go as zero contact as possible. Get advice from a DV support agency. Keep any texts/emails of him saying those types of things, because they might be important later.
The best thing I did when I was pregnant to a guy under similar circumstances was get legal advice before I had the baby. It made a huge difference in how smoothly things went when my son arrived, because I knew my child's rights, I knew my rights and I knew his rights. I could proceed from a position of knowledge rather than emotion and feer.
Use the systems in place such as child support agency and formalise his access to the baby as soon as you can through mediation etc.
If he is prone to blowing up your phone with texts, phone calls etc get your current phone number switched over to a cheap crappy prepay phone now. Turn the crappy prepay off and put it in a drawer and only check it once a day. That way you can respond to the texts etc that are actually relevant to what needs to happen, and not be overwhelmed by his bullshit. Get a new number for your current phone and only give people you trust the new number.
I know that's more than you asked
No its perfectly normal....
For petes sake....
R u serious... Someone tells you to kill yourself and your unborn baby and you're asking if its emotional abuse?
Cmon man....
I realise you're about to have a baby to this controlling, stalking, abusive man... here's what you do, dont put him on the birth certifcate, dont tell him when you give birth, move away from him and change your number. NO contact. Give yourself and your bub a fresh start, a positive one, a healthy one! If need be, report him and get an AVO out.
This!