My son is in grade 2 and he usually absolutely loves school but he is slowly starting to hate it ?
We have a very good mother son connection and he has been raised to always tell the truth even if it gets him in trouble. he has always stuck to it and tells me or others if his done something wrong. Today he got a red dot on his name because he was apparently spitting he said that he didn't spit and it was the other two boys who were with him (they also got a red dot on their name) im unsure what i do as it seems this teacher does not like my child there have been a few other things that have happened aswell... do i confront her? And politely explain that he didn't do it? I dont want to look like one of those mums that thinks her child never does wrong because i know that he does his a child but when he says he hasnt done something i know he hasnt done it... he has done worse things then that and has always admitted the truth... just feeling sad he has a hard time learning but has come so far in the last year and im worried that this teacher is going to be a setback for him. Xx
school and my sons teacher not seeing eye to eye
school and my sons teacher not seeing eye to eye
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Parenthood Guilt, Education, Behaviour, Kids
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Well you can't say he didn't do it because you weren't there. You need to explain to your son that he will get in trouble if he's with boys who are doing the wrong thing. He needs to not be with them if they are being naughty and especially spitting, to make sure people don't think it is him and he is ok with this kind of behaviour and as he's learnt, could even get the blame for what someone else has done.
Exactly, teach him to walk away when others are doing something wrong.
He was involved in a bulling incident at school last year along with 5 other kids the whole of yr 1 had to sit down and the teachers asked who was involved to please stand up my son was the only one who stood up its things like this that makes me believe he will always tell me the truth ive only ever had to ask him once if his done something wrong and he will admit it... its not always like this with all children i know as my 2nd son will blame everyone else before he admits it (im still working on him lol) i have explained that he shouldn't play with kids who are going to do the wrong thing and today was a prime example...
My son use to tell me everything but now he doesn't so much. Maybe your son is transitioning into this as well. I agree with the top two comments.
He said the teacher wouldn't let him talk she just told all 3 to go inside and then got the red dot across their names... he did try to tell her that he didnt do it but she didnt want to listen to him im really worried that if someone isnt going to listen to what a child is saying and just blames a child without asking or talking to the child then its pretty unfair and my son might eventually stop telling the truth if his going to get into trouble for things he hasnt done.. he was really upset about her not listening to him...
I'm sorry but this is an opportunity to teach him that being with children who spit is just as bad and will also cop punishment.
You won't always be able to say you know he's innocent because you trust him, he won't want you to. But also it won't matter. he has to learn that this is what happens in life when you are with people who do the wrong thing.
The right thing to do is leave, or go and tell the teacher - she would have happily listened to him had he done that.