Long story short, I've been married to my husband since I was 18 he is 7 years older then me, we have 4 awesome kids but I feel like there is something missing, I have lost the spark I felt for him, I work he stays home but he has become lazy to the point I have to remind him to have a shower or give me his clothes to wash, its like having a 5th child some days, he says he is not depressed he says everything is good he is happy he just runs out of time no really an excuse when I am home at 5:15.
We hardly have sex there's no foreplay,he never comments on my looks or what I'm wearing making me feel as if I'm not good enough, I have finally got my love of sex back but its like I have to beg for it or bribe him to have a shower so he can have what he wants, I guess my question is, if we never fight but I don't feel loved anymore do I keep trying to make it work? 14 years is a long time to just give up we have been to councillors helped for a few weeks then nothing what do I do now?
unsure if its fixable
unsure if its fixable
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Time to go, you tried, it didn't work. It's ok to go make yourself happy now.
Really??? You'd give up that easily?? What about marriage counseling or counseling individually? What about have a serious talk about relationship and laying all cards on the table. Gesh it makes me sad knowing people give up so easily. You try absolutely EVERYTHING possible before giving up.
She said they tried counselling!!
I asked what I should do we have done counselling he doesn't want to do more I'm trying to fix it but I really don't know anymore its not easy to even think of leaving we have kids to think about I am open to other suggestions maybe others have found something that works
One person can't fix a relationship, it takes both of you, if he isn't interested in continuing to work on it its just banging your head against a brick wall.
Sounds like your partner has some under lying issues that need to be addresses. I can understand your resovations on throwing 14yrs away thats along time.