I have three problems and they are affecting me and my relationship my whole life, and my children's lives badly! I'm frustrated, I've just recently been to doctor number 5 and once again sent out the door and told it's not an issue and nothing's wrong. Something is wrong! First off, I'm ALWAYS tired exhausted!!! I wake up in the morning feeling like I haven't slept at all when I've just slept 8 hours.. This is affecting the one on one time I can spend with my children, I keep the house tidy but it's a constant battle! All I want to do is lay in bed all day and watch tv.... 2nd problem is, for months, I can't stay off the toilet! I'm constantly having to poo, I'll go every half an hour some days, everything goes straight through me, it makes me scared to have sex with my partner just incase! I constantly have the urge that I need to go!!! And thirdly, it hurts to have sex! Sometimes it's okay but other times, he gets half way in and I just about cry! 12months ago this was not an issue (it happened randomly, my youngest is 2) it's obviously affecting our sex life as his scared to hurt me and I get so worked up about wanting to please him that I just end up feeling shit. these issues didn't happen together, first the exhaustion, second the constant toilet use and then the painful sex... My partner helps out around the house a lot! A lot more then I want him too.. I know you guys aren't doctors but I need something else to tell the doctors to make them take this seriously! Something is wrong! I can feel myself getting depressed by it, I feel so useless sometimes. I need advice or help or something!!!
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Ok, have the doctors done tests?? Or do they just send you away saying nothing is wrong. Do you usually see the same doctor or in the same clinic so they have your notes? Or do you usually see different doctors
How is your relationship in general? Not the good parts, I mean the bad parts, are they pretty bad? Do you have any other issues in your life? I say this because I suffered anxiety and depression and it manifested in physical symptoms. I presented to Dr's numerous times with a list of issues, exhaustion, lethargy, aches, pains, and they ran tests and sent me away.
Back then I never would have believed it's psycho somatic. Until my world fell apart and I went to a Dr who sent me to a psychologist and had incredibly high levels of stress, depression and anxiety. Once I started making real changes my body healed. I was really amazed that could happen without me knowing. I still think of all the times I sat in the Dr's convinced there's something really wrong, and getting nothing. And I wonder why they sent me away and didn't refer me elsewhere, didn't think it could be psychological.
Your next step should be a women's health Dr, a naturopath, take a holistic approach
Painful sex and the need to poo a lot makes me think you may have some sort of prolapse or bowel issue like IBS. If your food is going straight through then your body doesn't have time to absorb all the nutrients it needs which would be making you feel so damn tired all the time. Keep trying. Be persistent. Can you see a female doctor? As a last resort present at emergency, it's what I ended up doing after two years of bleeding because of sex.. straight in for ultrasounds and tests to make sure I didn't have cervical cancer. I didn't, thank god. You know your body best, if you really feel like something is wrong then there probably is.
I have had all these symptoms!!! Tested for everything and nothing came back other than thrush which i couldn't get rid of for 12 months until another Dr put me on a different resistant strain two week cream that i can't remember the name of! Think it started with M. FINALLY it doesn't hurt when i have sex! Candida wasn't showing up in vaginal swabs the last tests either, but i still had it. And i also found out i was very low in iron. Have you been tested for this?? Because after taking some hard core vit c/iron tablets (ask chemist) i have all my energy back! And i had 12 months of diarrhea/constipation/abdominal pain that eventually just went away. But i do get IBS. So I'm really not sure if all three things were related. So don't assume they are. Get a vaginal swab and blood tests done if you haven't.
Ask to get your b12 levels checked for your tiredness.
Look into fructose malabsorption. Best source of info can be found at this FB support group https://www.facebook.com/groups/FMSGVIC/?ref=ts&fref=ts