I have a 3month and 3yo and am currently home with Bub full time. My 3yo is still in pt day care.
Putting it bluntly, I'm not coping. I am anxious all the time, I'm overwhelmed, indecisive, my heart races and I can't breathe, the knot in my stomach is just getting bigger and everything feels too much. I've done what I can to get some paid help but it hasn't eased my anxiety. It's getting worse.
I'm irrational and reactive. My response to my 3yo is so often disproportionate to the behavior and I hate who I'm becoming. I'm angry and snappy. I'm all the things I'm usually not.
But the thing is, I've seen my gp, I've got a mental health plan, I'm seeing a psychologist, I'm telling people I not doing well and need something to change yet nothing has. No one has stepped up to help me or listen to me. My psych appts are great when I have them but I'm not feeling any help when I'm back at home.
I'm not sure if I'm just sinking faster than everyone realizes or am I not being clear enough about how i'm really going? I don't even know if anyone can actually help me but I have no idea how to change this beyond what I'm doing.
Any thoughts?
Asking for help but no one's listening
Asking for help but no one's listening
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Are you taking medication?? If not return to your GP and say you need medication, if you are taking medication go to your GP and and tell them it isn't working.
You don't say how long it's been since you started treatment. Unfortunately it can take time to start to feel better.
This!! So much this. Meds can make a huge difference while you're working with your psych, can help keep you more level. If you're breastfeeding the little one (and you and/or GP are worried about meds crossing into the breastmilk), don't worry. There are actually a few meds that are safe for breastfeeding. Have your GP contact Rodney Whyte from Monash - he's a pharmacist with lots of knowledge on pregnancy, breastfeeding and medications (google him) to help you find a suitable medication.
Good luck IM.
I was like you. Needing help asking and telling ppl i wasnt coping. No one understood till 3 wks ago when i had a complete break down and my husband found me sobbing on the bathroom floor. All i can say is keep asking for help keep seeking help your issues wont be fixed over night but you will get their just keep getting help and keep moving forward.
Call lifeline, panda, or your local community health Centre nurses, and tell them exactly what you've said here. You're sinking faster than anyone realizes and you're not getting the help you need.
All the best. Well done for reaching out its hard to do, especially over and over, while not getting the help you need. please make a call.
The number for Panda is 1300 726 306.
You can also go into your local community health Centre and speak with the nurses, they're open everyday. As are women's health Centres where you can speak with a gp, another woman or a counselor.
sounds like me 5 years ago, I went through a really rough time with my last baby being sick and other stresses, I got anxiety really bad, panic attacks and couldn't go out in public for a few months
just focus on the pshycologists appointments and doctors appointments and being nice to yourself, taking time out for yourself that is good for you...bath, walking, movies, candle while kids are asleep.. don't focus on the other people, sometimes people don't know how to react and don't want to offend, or sometimes it can us being a bit sensitive, it will only stress you out more and that will make it worse.
sounds like anxiety.. I went through the same thing, I went to counselling, took low dose of meds for 6 months took magnesium, vit b and fish oil (all good for stress), walked every day, went off social media and tried to just go through the waves of anxiety and fear when I was out in public, got bub into day care 1 day a week and tried to not sweat on the small stuff, pretty much just focused on keeping healthy and being kind to myself mentally and physically.. eventually things got easier, anxiety got better and I am back to normal, my kids are all in school and I look back on those days and think how amazing and strong and how much wiser I am because of it, it will get better I promise.. be kind to yourself and time will heal everything. best of luck gorgeous mama xo
sounds like me 5 years ago, I went through a really rough time with my last baby being sick and other stresses, I got anxiety really bad, panic attacks and couldn't go out in public for a few months
just focus on the pshycologists appointments and doctors appointments and being nice to yourself, taking time out for yourself that is good for you...bath, walking, movies, candle while kids are asleep.. don't focus on the other people, sometimes people don't know how to react and don't want to offend, or sometimes it can us being a bit sensitive, it will only stress you out more and that will make it worse.
sounds like anxiety.. I went through the same thing, I went to counselling, took low dose of meds for 6 months took magnesium, vit b and fish oil (all good for stress), walked every day, went off social media and tried to just go through the waves of anxiety and fear when I was out in public, got bub into day care 1 day a week and tried to not sweat on the small stuff, pretty much just focused on keeping healthy and being kind to myself mentally and physically.. eventually things got easier, anxiety got better and I am back to normal, my kids are all in school and I look back on those days and think how amazing and strong and how much wiser I am because of it, it will get better I promise.. be kind to yourself and time will heal everything. best of luck gorgeous mama xo
Pop on your walking shoes, put the kids in the pram (grab snacks/books for 3 year old) and find yourself somewhere beautiful and peaceful to walk.
You will love the fresh air, sunshine, being out of the house and you can sort through some of the things in your head while you wander around. If you can find a walking buddy even better.
What you have explained is what every stay at home mum feels. It will get easier.
Join mothers group.
Find outtings that you will all enjoy.