Masturbation again. update.

Masturbation again .. update.

Some of you where wondering how the bathroom isn't a discreet place , well we are an open door kind of family, there isn't much I don't know about my partner whom I had been with for 8 years. Yes there are underlying issues, I'm thankful for those who read the post and didn't feel the need to validate i should be greatful his not still cheating. Let me tell you he should be greatful to still be apart of our family.

It's not discreet when he takes his iPad into the bathroom every time he does it, one doesn't have to check up on their partner once it becomes problem enough to reach out to the sisterhood, it's obviously a learnt routine one we've argued over many times. I was raised not be nieve, if I have spoken and voiced my concerns I refuse to pretend to be ignorant.

I don't feel it's discreet when I head to bed to get some sleep and he decides to stay up in the lounge room to finish the show we are watching, I go to bed I go to sleep, I wake up and realise my partner hasn't made it to bed yet to walk out to the kitchen/ lounge area to one fetch a drink and two wake my partner to come to bed if his fallen asleep in his chair to find him sittibg on my lounge floor tugging away watching porn on his phone .confronting to say the least, or I'm feeding the baby he decides his going to bed and when I settle baby who currently sleeps in our room like a normal newborn I walk in on my partner who immediately tried to hide and then lies to my face on both recent occasions .Not discreet, insulting and confronting as I've spoken to him about how I feel.

Have any of you ever showered with your partner , got out , forgot something gone off in your towel and then headed back to hang your wet towel up ? Realised you've used the last clean towel. fetched a dry one from the mountain of unfolded washing because having a new born isnt easy and thank the Lord there is even a clean towel left. He will only yell for me to bring it too him when he got out anyway something I know and a kind gesture and thought ful gesture to save him standing waiting. I was only just in the shower with him and find it a little difficult to walk in on.

Trying to move on from someone who cheated on you whilst pregnant with their child , doesn't make for the "have a little fun" not all of us live in a perfect woorld. Pregnancy and after is a very difficult time .My body has been through hell after my 10 weeks stay in hospital whilst he looked after our other children wasn't as simple as leaving. Personally my partner is making me uncomfortable and don't I deserve a little respect and mindfulness to how I may be feeling after my ordeal. One shouldn't have to go into every intriqute detail I many many of you did not remotely answer my question and I honestly felt like I was worthless as a human being and my feelings do not matter.

However my baby is now 6 weeks old and many of the comments where nasty unhelpful and rude. I have since asked my partner to leave our home and am very much on the verge of a break down in a small down with no family suppor or friendships hence reaching out here.

I do wish people would learn that the comments made here actually affect people's life's and it doesn't pay to be keyboard hero's. Thank you to the women who understood what I was trying to say and read my comment and answered my question and didn't feel the need to belittle me as a woman.
I should mention we don't live a luxious life in a big house and that we currently live in a tiny 2 bedroom flat where space and privacy is limited for all.