So I've found myself in the situation where I'm pregnant. It's not an ideal situation as the father and I are not officially together, however have been dating for 6 months. He is 100% dead against it and wants me to terminate immediately. I on the other hand don't feel at all comfortable with this option. I feel like I'm making this decision based entirely on what he wants and not on what I want because I'm so confused and messed up by this. I know already the pressures of being a single mum but I don't know if can do it for a second time. I was with my child's father for 10 years and he has nothing to do with him (not my choice). I feel like the pressure is getting to me and dragging me down into depression.
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Go speak to your GP they can get you in to speak to a counsellor.
But at the end of the day you have to make the decision that is right for you as a single mum as you won't be able to rely on or expect help from this guy. So pretend like he doesn't exist, look at your options. Look at what supports are out there that you could use as a single mum. Would you need to use daycare more etc to give you some breathing space?
If he didn't want a baby he should have used the right protection. I hate guys like this. You do what you want to do love. Don't let him dictate what you can and can't do with your body and your life.
How did you fall pregnant were you not on the pill? Its a 50/50 choice not just yours not just his.
Honestly if I found out I was pregnant and the father didnt want to keep it and Id only been dating him for 6 months, I would terminate. Having this baby is something he doesnt want and he has every right in the choice as you do. I think its unfair thats it ultimately up to the mother seeing as it will it affect him for the rest of his life too.