Hi,
My sons father and I are parted! We haven't really spoken in a good year and half! I communicate though his partner. We've got a court order and we've been kinda getting along lately. Our new court order starts as school commerences! Anyways it's his days on his first days of school. I don't wanna miss it we've only just started being able to ring during each other's care period. It's been a long year and half finally seeing some light at the end of the tunnel- not from me I moved on he is a very angry bitter man! My question is how would you approach the subject of me meeting them at the school on his first day? They don't always have our sons best interests at heart( loads of brain washing) etc! I feel like I should be just telling them I'm coming cus he's my son but I don't what to stir a honets nest. We all met for his orientation which again was his days but they kinda just ingored me & my son just ran around near them cus he would have been told not to talk to me. I just don't wanna look but in 10 years time and regret it all! Not sure how to ask or what to say?
Starting prep
Starting prep
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You have every right to be at the school when he gets dropped off for his first day!! Both parents are entitled to be a part of their child's schooling, whether they get along or not. If you want to see him on his first day then be there, with all the other parents with their children on their first day. You will regret it forever if you don't go, even if you're doing it to save the peace... I really hope you get to be a part of your sons day xx
I'd be showing up. If your ex gets his knickers in a twist over that, that's his issue. You're not breaching anything and it's your right to be there!! Please go, and take photos. It's so important.
I would go, I really don't like the whole my day their days. Sure they have most days alone but for important first days, birthdays and other dates both parents should get to be there should they wish.
Just tell them you'll meet them at that school at whatever time. Be there early though. When my son started it was the quickest of goodbyes. It was about 4 minutes from stepping foot in the school to coming back out. They whisk the kids away fast so there aren't tears and it's easier for the kids. But I wouldn't have missed that day for anything.