I have worked for the same company but in varying departments for 15 years. My current boss, and I have known each other all this time and I believed we had a mutual respect and liking for each other. Since I moved into her department two years ago she seems like a different person. She is not a very good manager and has favourites, and those she picks on in the department. The atmosphere is pretty toxic. Despite this I always try be supportive and helpful to her. She recently got engaged to her long time defacto and invited every one in the office except for the team I am in (4 women). to her wedding. Some of the women she invited had been with the department for less than 6 months. It has created even more stress and division in the office, but even worse I am deeply hurt by this, even moved to tears when I think about it. One of the other uninvited is a woman I have become quite close to, and my boss appears to hate her (duno why), I feel like I am being punished for my friendship. My boss has attended my family occasions, and I hers in the past. How do I face her every day?
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You start to treat work as work, home as home. You go in do your job, go home. You be professional.
Agree with this. .. it seems as though the line between work and personal life has been blurred here. It's never nice to feel excluded but honestly, why are you seeking her friendship/approval so much? Take pride in your work, complete all tasks to the highest standard and go home with your head held high. We all work with people that we may not necessarily choose to have as friends but that should never get in the way of professionalism.
I've always worked by the mantra that familiarity breeds contempt. My work life is just that, my colleagues are seen at work not socially and if the boss has favourites then bully for them, I'm just there to get a job done and get paid. You may find it easier to let the friendship die its natural death and replace it with a more profession working relationship.