I know this is common, but not commonly talked about.
My husband and I have been trying to conceive, but for whatever reason its just not happening for us. We both have children to other partners, so I don't understand why its not working for us. At first we stoped trying not to get pregnant, and after over a year we found it weird that we hadnt fallen by "accident". Then we actually started trying but even having sex on the right days, and laying with my hips up we still haven't made a baby.
My period was due on Saturday, and I didn't feel the usual cramps leading up to it. Instead I had a loss of appetite, and the idea of food made me feel quisy. I didnt want to get my hopes up so I was just waiting for my period, which I knew would come (im never late). Sarurday came and no period. I didnt want to get excited, but if I didnt have my period I must be pregnant right?
Then comes Sunday and still no period. My husband and I started to get excited. Monday comes, and still no period. My husband started back at work, and is away for the week. We were messaging all day, and started talking about getting a test and if we should wait until he comes home on the weekend. And I let myself get excited.
Then im cooking dinner and bam! Theres my period and once again no baby. I am absolutely devistated. I don't know why im not pregnant, and I really wish I was.
There are a lot of women that are going and have gone through this, I guess im just looking for support since the only other person I can talk to about it is my husband. And hes not even home at the moment anyway.
What do you do when you find out you've gone another month without falling pregnant? And does anyone have any tips of things that theyve tried that have helped them fall? Not too long ago I brought up the idea of ivf with my husband, and he said its to expensive and we wouldn't do it. That was upsetting to hear. We haven't seen a doctor about it yet, because I didnt want to think we were there. But after another fail I think thats our next step. But im just scared. And really really really sad.
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Acupuncture! I was trying for well over a year, had been diagnosed with secondary infertility, had all the blood tests, etc. I conceived the day after having acupuncture. It was amazing! Highly recommend it.
My husband and I both followed the LCHF diet for 1month, in that month we conceived. I'm not sure if that was the reason it clicked but maybe worth a shot.
I would def see a doctor as some IVF is covered under Medicare I believe.
Good luck
Go to a gp and ask them to run all the usual blood tests checking vit d, thyroid, all your other vitamins. Find a natural clinic that specializes in fertility support (esp ivf transfers...even though you arent doing ivf it generally means they work with repromed or some other fertility clinic so you kmow they are reputable). Take the results to a naturopath/accupunturist and they will be able to balance your body with natural suppliments and do accupuncture to assist. I was told by repromed and by a gyno specialist i wouldnt conceive naturally and within months i was pregnant with my gorgeous daughter with just accupuncture/natural suppliments. I miscarried my 2nd pregnancy (conceived without accupuncture or anything) and after the miscarriage went back to accupuncture/naturopath and again got pregnant within a couple of months...had some bleeding early but saw the accupunturist regularly and i am now 22 weeks and alls going well. I think mentally it makes you feel proactive, your body/vitamins etc will be all balanced so you should feel better anyway and it gives you someone to work with. Good luck :)
Ill tell you my story and i hope this helps...
At 18 i had an ectopic pregnancy and got told i had stage 4 endometriosis. I lost my tube so now i only have 1 fallopian tube. I was told i would need IVF.
I met my husband and after a while we started trying for a baby. After 4 years, 6 miscarriages (one of those was a set of twins), i got pregnant and we now have a son.
What i firmly believed helped us was this:
*healthy eating... i dont mean organic etc. I mean home cooking, nothing pre-packaged, fruits, veg and lots of water. Occassional treats too!
* menevit for my husband
* elevit for me
* maca root for both of us (natural way to heap fertility. $20 a bottle)
These things i firmly believe helped me get pregnant. (After only 2 cycles of taking these i got pregnant)
Also. Both go and see your doctor. Get your thyroid checked! Also your iron levels. Both of those greatly impact fertility.
Get your blood types checked. Not all blood types match and if you have a negative blood type and your partner has a positive then it can make things hard (im A- hubby is O+)
There are many things that can impact pregnancy. Stop taking anti-inflammatories (eg nurofen) they can cause miscarriages. Stress can impact your ability to get pregnant too.
Good luck
I suggest you both go & see a doctor to get all the relevant testing done to make sure there are no obstacles from stopping you fall pregnant. Maybe you could try artificial insemination prior to ivf. I'm not sure what the success rate is but it's a lot cheaper & less invasive than IVF