Hi sorry if this doesn't make sense but I'm so furious at our current situation.
so long story short, my ex moved over 4 hours away and only sees our child every 3 months for half of the school holidays, there is no phone calls or any contact in between these visits either. For these holidays he has had our child from Boxing Day and will have for 3 weeks. Now as far as I know they will just be in his home town, but I have found out that he has taken him out of the state, over 8.5 hours away from here without letting me know.
We currently don't have court orders in place but I am in the process of getting that under way. But I was under the impression that he should at least inform me that he is leaving the state. Shouldn't I know the whereabouts of my child when not in my care. I don't even have a current address for the ex as he has moved and didn't tell me.
Has anyone else been in a similar situation? I am struggling to work out an agreement that would be best for our child and it's hard to trust the ex when he can't even keep me informed.
Ex traveled out of state with child without consent.
Ex traveled out of state with child without consent.
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I have a feeling you don't need to know anything while he's got him. Only if he doesn't return him in time. Get the agreement drawn up ASAP that will help you should he do something silly you have that to support you.
My ex also has our son for half holidays- what happens while in each other's care is none of my business unless my son comes home and tells me it's real bad I say something but otherwise I just let it be. But get a order drawn up saves you a lot of worried when you its in place. And boundaries too follow
Unless you have something specific drawn up, he legally doesn't have to tell you. However, I think it's pretty shitty that he didn't. It's a matter of respect. I would be furious if the ex took our daughter outside the state or o/s without telling me. However I am always conscious to extend the same courtesy to him and will always tell him when I am taking our daughter out of the state or country and where we will be. Maybe time to head to mediation and come to an agreement that outlines both your expectations?